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misty
20th May 2006, 10:55 PM
Our darling Declan fell asleep peacefully about 2 hours ago.

He was a lovely Blenheim boy, aged 7.

He fought gallantly with MVD and was on so many different pills.

Tonight he was having trouble breathing and we decided to take him to the emergency vet. Before we left, I cuddled him and begged him to help me get the strength to make the right choice for him.

When we got him into the car, he lay on the back seat next to my fiance, and fell asleep. A few minutes later he'd stopped breathing. It seems like he made the choice for me. God bless him.

He was a treasure - intelligent, funny, loving, noisy, playful, plucky - a wonderful little lad.

We've come home to his son, Cailean, who is running around the house in circles looking for his dad. How do you explain to a dog that his companion's not coming back? Poor little boy.

I'll never forget Deccie-Dog - he was one in a million.

Take care til we meet again, my sweetheart.

nlg679
20th May 2006, 11:18 PM
Oh I am sooo sorry for your loss.
Prayers and love,
Poor little son left behind to wonder....
Sorry!

Nicki
20th May 2006, 11:30 PM
Oh Misty I'm so very sorry to hear about your precious Declan.

Bless him though that he had such a peaceful end, and saved you from the trauma of giving him his wings.

Try to take comfort that he is free from pain and running happily with all the Rainbow Bridge Angels...and one day you will be reunited.

Sending our love and ((((hugs)))



Don’t cry for me I’m doing fine,
I’m in heaven now with wings that shine,
It makes me sad to see you cry,
but I’ve big fields and flowers up here in the sky,
God gave me all I could ever dream,
It’s a place more beautiful than you have ever seen,
While there on earth I saw your smile,
bringing me peace if just for a while.
Now as I live in eternal bliss,
please just know I send you a kiss,
I loved the time you devoted to me,
but want one last thing, for you to smile for me.

Author unknown



Just cuddle Cailean close, he will understand that you are upset. It may take a while before he stops looking for his Dad. Try to keep him in his normal routine for meals and walks, although I know it's very hard.

Is there any chance that Cailean could visit with Declan?

I lost my beautiful Tricolour Peaches {also aged 7} in January to MVD and multiple other problems, we gave her her wings at home, and placed her in her bed. We let our other two come in and see her. Rupert, who had lost a companion before, just sniffed her and seemed to accept straight away. Teddy couldn't understand at all, he kept going over and licking and nudging her and couldn't work out what had happened. It was heartbreaking to watch, but eventually he seemed to accept it.

Obviously they were both upset, but neither of them looked for her afterwards.


When you feel up to it, you may find some comfort looking at these sites:

http://www.petloss.com/

http://www.griefhealing.com/petlinks.htm

http://rainbowsbridge.com/chat.htm

http://rainbowsbridge.com/hello.htm

http://dogs.about.com/od/griefandloss/

Karlin
21st May 2006, 01:29 AM
I'm so sorry that you have lost Declan. You were clearly doing everything possible to give him the best life possible -- and he left you in such a peaceful way, taking the hard decisions from your shoulders. That won't lessen the pain but I am sure it will be a comfort to know he slipped away so gently and would have felt no pain -- and you were there with him too.

Cathy T
21st May 2006, 02:54 AM
I'm so sorry for you loss. Your Declan sounded like a beautiful boy. May he rest peacefully or romp happily, whatever makes him happiest.

Maxwell&me
21st May 2006, 06:27 PM
Your in our Thoughts Here~~
With Deepest Sympathy....

Alison_Leighfield
21st May 2006, 06:47 PM
So, so sorry to read your posting. it's heartbreaking to say goodbye to a little one that we have loved so very much, be gentle on yourself, time does heal, it will get better. Treasure the memories for they are so special and yours forever. He is and always will be in your heart

Thinking of you all at this very difficult time,

Take care,

Alison, Wilts, UK.

sarahg
22nd May 2006, 07:15 AM
Misty so sorry to hear about Declan. My thoughts are with you. Xxx

Jen
22nd May 2006, 04:39 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. :flwr:

sramirez
22nd May 2006, 04:40 PM
Our thoughts are with you Misty. I lost my beloved rescue Jonah to MVD in January '05. Like your Declan, he was out playing in the snow and just had a massive coronary and went quickly. It was truly meant to be that he spent almost 2 great years with us. I still miss him every day....

Sheri

Angela
23rd May 2006, 01:27 PM
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. You will never ever forget Declan but the pain will get easier in time. Cherish your special memories as they are yours forever.

misty
23rd May 2006, 10:51 PM
Thank you to everyone for their kind responses - I've drawn lots of comfort from them.

We collected Declan's ashes from the pet crematorium today and are keeping them safe until the weather is nicer. Then we're going to scatter them at a beauty spot he enjoyed.

I've put a photo of Dec as the wallpaper on my work computer and every so often, I stare at him and shed a few tears.

I'm sure he is running free and loving it.

Cailean is a little bit withdrawn, but he's stopped searching for Declan in the wardrobes now. I'm not sure whether or not we will get a companion for Cailean, as he basically hates dogs! He liked Declan because he knew him.

We are giving Cailean lots of love and fun, and trying to help him move on. He is also a wonderful comfort.

Thanks again.

Forest
24th May 2006, 02:23 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you too at this difficult time. Declan will always be a special part of you and your family and he rests peacefully now.
Julie and the girls

Linda
25th May 2006, 03:58 PM
I am so so sorry that you losted Declan, I am sure he is at peace now and God Bless him making the heartbreaking decision for you.

Thinking of you during this very difficult time, may time heal you.

Claire
26th May 2006, 03:25 PM
I am so sorry about your loss.... never forget the happy times.....

judy
10th June 2006, 06:15 PM
i found nicki's post very moving. may you and caillean find peace and comfort and lots of love in each other's needs for affection and closeness right now.

getting another companion for caillean sounds like something to take time in considering, one of those choices in life that is not cut and dried or easy to know what's right. lilfe is so amazing, always rich and complex with choices and challenges. maybe if caillean was used to Decci, he could get used to another dog and enjoy the companionship. at the same time, if he hates other dogs, you are right to go slow in thinking about it. it sounds like you are very sensitive to his needs.

take care misty, wishing you comfort and peace and lots of happy memories to ease your grief

Maxxs_Mummy
11th June 2006, 07:53 PM
So sorry to hear about Declan, I hope your heart is less heavy now and that your memories of him are all wonderful ones :flwr:

My Maxx is 7 in August and I treasure every moment we have together xxx

Mary
11th June 2006, 08:51 PM
So sorry for your loss of Declan. Hope his memories bring smiles one day as the pain lessens. It is so very difficult to loose such a dear friend. How peaceful his death was at your sides.

misty
11th June 2006, 11:02 PM
Thanks to everyone.

We are gradually adapting to life without Declan. The tears have mostly turned to happy memories.

I got married 2 weeks ago. The day after the wedding I took a cream rose from my wedding bouquet and wrapped a sequin in it and left it nestled in a fir tree close to where Declan passed away.

Cailean is loving the attention of being an 'only' dog at times, but other times he looks very wistful. He won't eat alone anymore, but I think that's natural, as he was obviously used to eating with another pack member. We now bring his bowl into the living room, so he can eat in front of us. Cailean seems better with other dogs now, but only when he's not on his lead.

We have room in our hearts, our home and our lives for a companion to Cailean, but it would have to be a dog in need. We still have mixed feelings though and will leave it to fate for the moment.

Thanks again to everyone - your thoughts have helped so much.

xxx

Mary
11th June 2006, 11:39 PM
I will always believe that the dog that is meant to be yours will and does cross your path at the right time as well as when it is the right human and right time we cross their path. Hoping as time heals that your path is crossed at just the right time with the perfect little fur ball that needs you as much as you need him!

misty
29th June 2006, 10:38 PM
It's nearly 6 weeks since Declan left us.

In the past week or so, there have been 3 or 4 instances where Cailean has seen things that I can't.

I have found him staring at blank walls and barking, or looking up towards the ceiling, staring into space. He has never done this before.

I wonder whether Declan's coming to visit him?? Every time Cailean does this, I talk to Dec anyway, in case he's there.

I miss him so much still, bless his heart.

Maxxs_Mummy
1st July 2006, 12:31 PM
Mary is so right in what she says. I too believe that the right dog will come at the right time. We'd been actively looking for a dog for about 18mths before we found Maxx. Then I had a bad road accident and knew it would be some time before I could work again in any capacity. Maxx was born two days after this accident & has been my constant companion since we brought him home. We've been through so much together and have dried each others tears on many occasions as well as sharing so many fun times together too.

When Charlie came along I had practically given up on finding another dog, either puppy or rescue as when I had my name down for a pup, they were both premature and stillborn :( . Then, one day I was having coffee with a friend and her brother-in-law popped in with her niece. He started to tell me that they'd had a death in the family and he was trying to re-home the dog without much success. Maxx and I visited that evening and after a few neutral meetings and home visits from Charlie, he moved in. He's now changed from a terrified little wreck into a little monkey who is so confident with us that we never dreamed it was possible. He's also gaining confidence with strangers and some other dogs too - it's lovely :flwr:


Misty, I do believe that Cailean may be seeing his Daddy. I am a great believer in life after death and know of many instances of animals seeing things before humans do.

We used to have a cat who would knock the letterbox when he wanted to come in as he was too big to fit through the cat flap (we always thought he was crossed with a dog as he had the biggest paws and head of any cat I've ever seen!!!!). One night we were sitting watching tv when the letterbox knocked (he used to lift it up and let it thud) in the way that Felix used to do it. This was followed by a yowl. Hubby got up and went to the door but there was nothing or no one there. This continued four or five times until I got up and went to the door. I stood there and said 'Come in Felix'. My youngest was there with me and he said that he felt something brush past his legs that felt like a pussy cat - he was only about six at the time & not the sort of child to make up stories.

When we got Maxx, he used to sit by the front door & watch something going up and down the stairs and I swear to this day that it was Felix he was watching!

misty
1st July 2006, 12:38 PM
I must admit when I see Cailean staring at something I cannot see I will embark in a 'conversation' along the lines "hello darling Declan, thank you for coming to see us"

His breeder said Declan popped into her mind a few weeks ago - turns out it was the week after he died. Think he'd been to visit her too. :)

Mary
1st July 2006, 01:49 PM
On animal planet there is the lady who speaks to the departed animals and her thoughts are they are always with us. They touch us so much in real life how can they not always be touching our lives...these special little critters who bring us so much joy.

Forest
3rd July 2006, 06:08 AM
I had an experience like this a few years ago after our cat died. She was a beautiful cat and I would never get another one as I don't think that I could get another like her. She was 13 years old when we had to give her her wings. She appeared to me twice after she died. I saw her as plain as anything sitting on the arm of the lounge chair. I'll tell you it made my heart skip a beat. There was also one other time not long after that. I used to think that she came back to show me that she was OK as I had a great deal of trouble making the decision to take her to the vet for the last time. Our darling cav never did this and I often put that down to the fact that he died naturally in my husband's arms. I knew at the time that he was having a heart attack and just prayed to Saint Francis ( the patron saint of animals) to take him quickly to stop his suffering. I'm sure our beloved companions are waiting for us there in heaven.
Julie and the girls

Cathy T
3rd July 2006, 04:35 PM
I find these posts so difficult to read. I can't imagine the day I will lose one of mine. But at the same time I find them comforting as well. We know we will lose them at some point and I just try not to think about it. Love them to the fullest every day and take joy in every minute. We lost two cats at age 13 to different disease over a 2 year period. I never thought I would get another animal as it was so hard to get over their loss. But when I consider the great joy and how much they have fulfilled me...I know I will.

To all of you who have sent your beloveds to the bridge...know that I think of you daily and sympathize with your pain. And thank you for telling us your thoughts and feelings. I take comfort in knowing I can read through these when I need to find solace and understanding.

misty
4th July 2006, 12:44 AM
It is so hard letting go, even if it's only for the time being.

However, the pleasure of having one of these darling creatures in our lives far outweighs the pain.

Losing Declan has made me cherish every moment with Cailean. I love him more than ever (if that is possible!).

When Declan went to the bridge, someone here advised me to take comfort in Cailean. I have done this - giving him even more hugs than usual. He's a wonderful lad and I know his time with me is limited, which makes me appreciate him even more.

He is "mummy's boy" and is kissing me as I type.

misty
11th July 2006, 10:45 AM
Declan's been visiting again.

When I know I'm going to be in for a couple of hours, I always light a candle and put it on top of the tv. I do this in Declan's memory.

Last night the candle was lit. I was upset about Cailean's heart troubles anyway. Suddenly Cailean spotted something on the sofa opposite (nothing visibly there). He stared for a few seconds, then went running over and jumped onto the sofa. He seemed placated then and jumped off and carried on as normal.

A little later, I was sitting in my usual armchair, browsing the 'net with the laptop on my knee. Often Declan used to sit on the chair arm next to me, or jump onto the laptop. My right arm was resting on the chair arm all the time - suddenly the underneath of my forearm went really really warm. I lifted my arm up and it felt 'normal'. When I put it back on the chair arm, the warmth had gone. :)

So last night we had 2 visits from darling Deccie.

On Sunday night, I also had my candle burning. As the candle was burning, I received an e-mail with some happy news. I had 2 more e-mails with further happy news before the candle had burned out.

I think Declan is keeping me very close at the moment, as I cope with the onset of Cailean's MVD.

Maxxs_Mummy
11th July 2006, 11:38 AM
{{{{{{{{Misty}}}}}}}} I'm so glad that your darling boy has been back to see you & Cailean. I honestly think they do come back to give us strength and help us through the bad times.

I must admit that I was always an open minded sceptic until I met Colin Fry (from the 6ixth Sense on tv) & he gave me a reading. This was a man whom I had never met before & he related a conversation to me that I had had with my late Father, a year before he passed over.

He told me of things that had happened since my Father's passing & times that my Father had been with me. It was so accurate that there was no way he could have been making it up. He also told me of times that my Father had said that he would be around me too - I just said OK and never mentioned it to anyone else in the family. Strange thing was though that my kids then had strange experiences at these very times!

So, you just enjoy Declan's spiritual visits. It seems that they will come until they feel that you are strong enough without them.

Take care xxxxx

Mia
11th July 2006, 01:58 PM
Dear Misty,

I have joined the site only recently and I have just read your thread about your baby Declan, I just want to say how sorry I am to hear the sad news. I can only imagine how hard it is and Declan is obviously trying to help you - know that he is happy and missing you just as much as you are missing him - you will see him again - believe!

:luv:

misty
11th July 2006, 02:28 PM
Dear Misty,

I have joined the site only recently and I have just read your thread about your baby Declan, I just want to say how sorry I am to hear the sad news. I can only imagine how hard it is and Declan is obviously trying to help you - know that he is happy and missing you just as much as you are missing him - you will see him again - believe!

:luv:

I know we'll see him again. I should imagine he's really frustrated seeing me missing him, when he's watching all the time!

I feel as if he's helping me a lot at the moment. :lol: