View Full Version : Girl Or Boy? Your opinions please...

11th September 2006, 11:04 AM
Having waited patiently for my puppy after searching and a couple of failed matings, finally I had the call I was hoping for from my breeder. My puppy was born on Friday...yay! The only problem being I had wanted a girl but the mum had 3 boys and 1 girl and the breeder might want to keep the girl. She said she would decide in 8 weeks. So I have first refusal on the girl but I can have my choice of the boys. There's a possibility she might keep a boy, I guess depending on looks. It's kind of thrown me. I had a girls name picked out and everything. I know by eight weeks I would have become attached to the boy as I am allowed to see him every week from 10 days old. I've even chosen the name Dylan! I don't know how I would feel if I was offered the girl at that point. I would appreciate your opinions on any differences, advantages/disadvantages in nature or habbits between girls and boys. Thank you x

11th September 2006, 11:25 AM
I chose a boy because of girls monthly's :yuk:
and was told that girls can be quite hormonal/stroppy (don't know how true it is)?, I have enough of that with my 12 yr old daughter :roll:

11th September 2006, 11:32 AM
Thank you. I'd get my girl or boy "seen to" as soon as possilbe anyway.

11th September 2006, 11:36 AM
I have the most sweeties Girl,,,,,, and my mother and sister inlaw has girls too... I do not want to make your more confused but having a girls is also great and the 6 monthly (not monthy) is not really a prob...

matties mum
11th September 2006, 11:39 AM
I have always had males cavaliers the only dog who was female Penny was no trouble only once every 6 mouth are so when she was in season about nomal for most dogs I can say that male or female that they are lovely little dogs Aileen

11th September 2006, 12:01 PM
a few people on the board feel this way:

Girls love you

Boys are IN love with you! :) hehe

11th September 2006, 12:18 PM
I agree with Sara, my boys are definitely in love with me :lol:

Unless you were planning on breeding which you're obviously not, I don't really think it matters too much. They are such loving little dogs and both sexes are as wonderful and loving as each other :D

11th September 2006, 12:22 PM
From my experience with Golden Retrievers ( girls can be wayward and stubborn)- I chose a boy - don't know if its breed specific but I think boys are more loyal and tend to want to please their mum's more (thus easier to train) - which is why I am going for another boy :)

11th September 2006, 12:45 PM
I adore having two boys. If you have bonded with the little boy, tell your breeder you want to stick with the boy! :)

I chose a boy because of girls monthly's
and was told that girls can be quite hormonal/stroppy (don't know how true it is)?

Girls actually only have twice yearlies or so not monthlies, but of course they last 4 weeks each time :yikes: :lol: -- spaying solves the issue and is highly advisable for health reasons for females that are not part of a structured breeding programme with a recognised breeder/mentor. :) Lower cancer risk (they have a 25% chance of cancer otherwise on average) and removes the roisk of pyometra, which is usually lethal.

Females can be stroppy even when spayed, usually only with other females, spayed or not. Lily is this way. From that point of view, I much prefer the easy going nature of my boys!

It is all partly up to the individual dog's personality too but I have seen far more problems between female dogs of any breed or mix than between males, especially neutered males. Spaying and neutering considerably lowers the incidence of problems.

11th September 2006, 01:11 PM
I love my boys - and my boys love me (especially when I was kissing Woody and something popped out :yikes the other day). We also have Molly down the road and there is really no difference to attitudes, I think if female or male it doesn't matter.

11th September 2006, 01:14 PM
Ditto :D :D :D :D

I have two males and just love them both, they just adore us and are extremely loving.

I Ditto what Sara said, have always heard that and I truly believe it is true my breeder also told me the same thing.

Go get that little boy. :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
You will not regret it.

11th September 2006, 01:46 PM
I have one boy and 4 girl cavaliers. My girls do not fight with each other. They all have their spats but nothing horrible. They each have their own wonderful individual personality. They all love me and I love each one of them for who they are....whether boy or girl does not enter into that decision. I say pick the pup that tugs at your heart and forget the color or the sex. You will know when you see them which one is yours...if not right away then soon. They are all so loveable!!!

11th September 2006, 01:48 PM
Always had the girlies...up to four living together..never a problem. Always had them spayed after the first season never any moodiness etc.

It's always been "me and my girls!" not choosen by choice it's just the way it's happened. Would love a little boy equally the same... :D

Alison, Wilts, U.K.

11th September 2006, 02:30 PM
Wow Cavalier Talk gets me quick answers, it's great. Thank you for your replies. I feel happier now. I'm after the company and affection of a real soppy dog and now think a boy is best for me. "Dylan" it is then...I'm so excited, I'm sure you can imagine. Keep your comments coming please. Thank you cl*p

11th September 2006, 02:43 PM
I don't mean at all to say boys are better but I do like the personalities very much -- I got a boy 'by accident' too and happily added a second; I'd always thought I'd prefer a girl. I do find a girl more of a challenge and have found far more females of all breeds and mixes to be snappy with other dogs, mainly strangers.

But this may be due more to the breeding background and socialisation of the dogs in question -- the personalities of my boys, who come from the same lines and are fairly consistent, were bred for good temperament, while Lily who is a pound cavalier of unknown background was probably backyard bred by someone who didn't know the first thing about the breed, breeding for health, conformation or temperament. And she was quite neglected when I got her from the poiund which suggests someone didn't work very hard to get her well-socialised as a pup. :(

With cavaliers, I really think they are all lovely. :)

11th September 2006, 03:16 PM
Never had a little girl dog.

All my boy Cavs have had lovely natures - 3 completely daft and placid; 2 a little bit more feisty.

I find the more intelligent the dog, the feistier. Having fun with Bradley's spirited nature at the moment ;)

Cathy T
11th September 2006, 03:17 PM
I had my heart set on a blenheim female...and got a tri boy. My next would be my blenheim female...ended up being a tri female. Love both of them to pieces and realize now...it really doesn't matter!

Molly's mom
11th September 2006, 04:52 PM
I was always under the impression that with the Cav's it doesn't matter boy or girl. Molly couldn't be any sweeter, she expects everyone she meets to lavish her with affection and I mean everyone! :p

11th September 2006, 05:00 PM
I've never had a girl Cav, but Lucky is so sweet, even if only about 12 weeks so far. I have limited experience, but I'll bet it doesn't matter.

I wanted a little girl too ... like you I already had the name picked out. I'd been looking at the cute pink dog sweaters, etc. ... well, I just could not put a boy dog in pink!!! :-) AND I have absolutely no regrets for choosing a boy dog ... Lucky is my dog ... period. It feels like it was meant to be and I'm so happy he's mine.

I'm sure whichever puppy you get - boy or girl - will bring you years of happiness and puppy dog kisses. :lotsaluv:

11th September 2006, 06:22 PM
Thanks again for your comments :hug: Do you think there is a difference in dominance between girls and boys? I'm enjoying reading your comments. :cffee:

11th September 2006, 07:17 PM
We wanted boys for the supposed 'more clingy' personality they often display...and the two we got certainly have it. ;)

I suspect a Cav wouldn't be as bad, but our unfixed female Saint bleeds very, VERY badly. We didn't have her spayed becuse the male was nuetered...but may still do it just for the mess.


11th September 2006, 07:42 PM
Well I don't have a lot of experience, but my guy Riley is my first boy dog (also my first Cavalier). Always had females in the past and thought i wanted another, but the breeder had already matched this little guy to me and that was it.
All i can say is I have never had a dog that was so attached to me and wants to be wherever i am. I am starting to actually believe the saying about the boys being IN LOVE with you because Riley rather seems to be with me. He is an absolute handful to deal with, don't have enough experience to speak to the dominance thing. He is more challenging than dogs i had in the past, but i just adore him. He's my baby boy and i don't regret for one second having a male dog, he's my little buddy. :l*v:

11th September 2006, 07:42 PM
If you have two girls that fight-- they seem never to get over it. I have been told that two neutered male cavaliers RARELY fight over anything except maybe a favorite toy, food, or special treat <and they seem to get over it much better than females>. Do you have any other dogs to worry about?

11th September 2006, 07:45 PM
Thanks for all the replies. No, I don't have any ohter dogs. Is house training harder with boys?

11th September 2006, 07:51 PM
Thanks for all the replies. No, I don't have any ohter dogs. Is house training harder?

Males may be a little harder-- especially if they are intact.

matties mum
11th September 2006, 09:19 PM
I donot think boys are any harder to house train having Barney trained in about 3 weeks bar for when he was ill Aileen

11th September 2006, 09:46 PM
Wow! 3 weeks to house train is good. How did you do that? :thmbsup:

11th September 2006, 09:56 PM
EEk, these are scaring me since I have one bitch and am waiting on another....I just keep reminding myself that Holly is apparently incapable of hurting anything, apart from the occassional spider that wanders her way :D She even cuddled beside me quite happily when I temporarily adopted a Jekyll-and -Hyde psychotic cat...

I've had more experience with bitches, but I do get them spayed anyway...I wasn't too keen on a boy because of the humping issue, but apparently bitches can do it too, so ... Now, it's just habit! :D

11th September 2006, 10:42 PM
I have two girls. Cedar we raised from 8 weeks, while Willow came to use a few months ago as a mill rescue. Both girls are spayed.

I have not had one single issue with dominance or any of the female spats that might be more common in other breeds. Even with Willow having limited socialization, she and Cedar were good friends almost instantly.

If it is true that boys are more clingy than girls, I'm personally glad I have females!! I dont think I could handle any more clinginess, if it is even possible. The breed, even when bred irresponsibly, is so hardwired for people-oriented living, there is no lack of affection from either sex.

11th September 2006, 11:04 PM
Maxx was around 13 weeks when we got him and he was no trouble to train - he had very few accidents in the house, but Charlie was a different matter all together. He was already neutered when he came here and all he did was pee in the house. It almost drove me to distraction :yikes

I had less of a problem with Holly, the female ex puppy farm dog that I fostered. She was an absolute doll to train. We said 'NO!' in a firm voice and put her outside whenever she peed in the house and she soon clicked on that if she did it outside she'd get loads of praise and sometimes a treat - clever girlie that one :lol:

I didn't notice any difference in the clinginess between the sexes but the way Maxx looks at me compared to the way Charlie does or Holly did is completely different. I belong to him exclusively and if hubs and I cuddle or I cuddle the 'kids' (humungous great boys that they are), he either muscles in and pushes us apart or jumps up to join in. He usually ends up being picked up by hubs or the kids to join in the cuddle :roll: :lol: Not that he's spoiled or anything icon_whistling

12th September 2006, 01:19 AM
Gosh, it's so hard to say. I have 2 boys right now, one neutered, and one intact. Both are as sweet and gentle as can be, with each other and everyone else. I've also had a female dog, and she was very loyal to me, altho a bit leery of strangers, but I think that was just her personality.

12th September 2006, 02:58 AM
I have always had girls ....and wanted a girl Cav ..... but my litter was 2 boys ! I dont regret having a boy for 1 second !! He loves me sooooooooooo much ......he really is "in love with me" :flwr: :flwr: :flwr: He doesnt show his lipstick much at all and he never humps anything ( he is not neutered yet and is 8 months old ) .........the only "problem" I am having is with him peeing on his front leg :? :? :? That is very aggravating .....but I think they outgrow that and not all boys do that anyway ! I am very much in love with my boy :flwr: :flwr:

12th September 2006, 08:29 PM
Roxanne, I'm not sure if they grow out of peeing down their legs - Merlin still does it at 19 months! icon_whistling icon_whistling icon_whistling

12th September 2006, 11:42 PM
Thanks again for taking the time to write back. You lot are so kind.

13th September 2006, 12:46 AM
I have always given the advice to my friends that they should get male cats and female dogs, but now I have 1 female cat, 1 female dog, and 1 male Cav! Corgan (the Cav) is amazingly sweet, loving, fun, funny, ornery, sweet, sweet (did I say sweet?), and very very cute. I wouldn't have him any other way!

13th September 2006, 09:03 AM
well i have had 3 dogs in my time. 1 female (not cav).. and 2 male cavs.... i originally set on getting female cavs but i finally decided that the gender wouldnt make a difference and when i went to the breeders i decided i would choose two pups from their personality etc and then only after chosen would i see what gender i had picked. well after a long time spent with the litter ( which turned out to be 4 males and 3 females) i chose the two pups i liked best and they turned out to be 2 males! i do not regret my decision for a single moment, these guys are the best things to come into my life. :p

my friend also has two female cavaliers who are great but dont seem as affectionate as my guys...i mean dont get me wrong they are VerY affectionate but compared to my males wel..i guess the whole "in love" thing is very true!.. but in the end i would say just to choose the pup that you like and suits you best regardless of their gender...anyway good luck! :flwr:

Bruce H
13th September 2006, 11:44 AM
Now that we have had 4 boys in our clan for a while and can compare them to the girls, I really do believe there is something to the "in love" thing, like Nisha said. Early on when we had just one boy at a time, I would think it was maybe coincidence, but now I really do believe it. Don't get me wrong, the girls are VERY loving, but there is a subtle difference between the boys and girls, at least at our house.

13th September 2006, 12:48 PM
Roxanne, who told you they grow out of peeing on their legs? :lol: Maxx is 7 and we still get the odd peed on leg - his fave thing to do at the minute though is when we're out on a walk, he waits until Charlie walks right by him and then lifts his leg :yikes The amount of times I've had to wash poor Charlie's head :lol:

Charlie doesn't pee on his legs but all up his belly :roll: He must get dumped in the bath about 3 times a week to have his belly washed :lol:

13th September 2006, 02:51 PM
Grow out of pee'ing on themselves - I wish. Woody yesterday couldn't be bothered to hold his leg up the whole time so pee'd on his front leg and then decided to come and give me a cuddle and yep you got it straight onto my shoulders (I have a high ledge and was on the steps next to it) my t-shirt had a nice smell to it..... I had to go and have my nails done so smelt of fairy washing up liquid where I wiped it down...

13th September 2006, 03:57 PM
Errm...O...K...I thought you were all trying to sell me the idea boys were better!!!! :roll:

13th September 2006, 03:59 PM
Hey if you have kids you have dirty nappies...... my nephew pee'd right in my face once, and my new niece well number two's come out the top and the leg holes of her nappys.... :lol: Dogs have gotta be easier. icon_whistling

13th September 2006, 04:01 PM
Nappies...that was a long time ago :yuk: I guess it's the same thing, you don't mind when you love them.

13th September 2006, 04:03 PM
OMG aren't they just. My eldest once peed right up my leg! We were all ready to go out and there were wbout six of hub's mates sitting in my lounge. Rhys soaked his nappy (I used terry's in those days) so i laid him on his changing mat and knelt down on the floor to change him.

As soon as I removed his nappy, he shuddered and then peed - right up inside my dress and all over my leg. even my undies were soaked :yikes

Of course, the blokes thought it hilarious but not as funny as I did when I handed the clean nappy, pin and rubbers to one of them and said 'If it's so funny, you do it' :badgrin:

I think hubs must have changed him because the nappy stayed on :lol: I had to go and shower and change!

13th September 2006, 04:14 PM
Sticking with the furbabies for a while then.... icon_whistling

13th September 2006, 05:01 PM
Of course, the blokes thought it hilarious but not as funny as I did when I handed the clean nappy, pin and rubbers to one of them and said 'If it's so funny, you do it'

:rotfl: :rotfl:

14th September 2006, 12:24 PM
It took me a long time to chose which sex I wanted and in the end the extra loving of the male and the easier operation for desexing sold me on a boy. I certainly am happy I made that choice!

14th September 2006, 01:56 PM
I have 4 girls of different breeds ( 3 goldens, 1 griffon), and they have been brilliant. Lovable, extremely gentle but not too clingy. I generally prefer females because of this. The males I have had havent been the best, but that could be due to nature and breeding. But Jeremy we got because,well, he picked us really, and my son wanted a boy dog. He has been fantastic. He plays with all my children, even the baby. He gets along with everyone in the household. I dont think I have ever seen my husband so besotted with a dog before. So I dont regret getting a male cavy. We are planning to get another one in a year or so, and that will probably be a boy too. I think I am becoming a convert for the boys. :roll: :shock:

Cathy Moon
16th September 2006, 09:27 PM
I love the cavalier females and males equally.

I have 2 female cavs, India and Chocolate, who are very loving and friendly with our family, all strangers and other animals. They have never fought with each other. Chocolate has never gotten into a spat with Geordie either. Both females are registered therapy dogs.

I have 1 male cav who is very loving with us and his cavvie sisters, but he is shy with strangers and other animals. Geordie has gotten into spats with India over bully sticks. He does seem to be in love with me, so always comes when called!

All 3 are super affectionate and cuddly, but only Chocolate is a true lap dog. :hug:

I think temperament is more important to me than gender when it comes to dogs! If you have a friendly and calm cavvie, you can take him or her anywhere! :D

21st May 2008, 02:45 PM
I'm also trying to decide btwn male and female.

I have two young girls (3 and 6) and with this knowledge ALL the breeders have recommended male. Then I went to a cavalier romp and ALL the OWNERS overwhelmingly recommended female!! These owners all said they had easier times training their females.

After reading all the replies to this post this is what stands out to me:

For males there are tendencies for humping issues (even after neutering) and peeing on themselves plus problems with them lifting their legs constantly while on walks (even after neutering).

The people with females still seemed pleased with the level of loving they get from their females. So, in an effort to avoid the potential problems involved with the males I think that a female would be the better choice for us. I think my girls would walk easier with a dog that wasn't preoccupied with marking and the thoughts of them getting dog pee on them aren't appealing.

I was really hoping to find info that neutering would most definitely stop the leg raising and the humping but that just doesn't seem to be the case. I thought early neutering might increase your chances of having a male that will not be humping obsessed or marking obsessed.

21st May 2008, 03:28 PM
Wow, I didn't know this thread still existed. I'd love to find the thread I posted after I got Dylan with all the congrats, I will ask Karlin now...

Mom of Jato
21st May 2008, 03:47 PM
I thought I wanted a girl too, but the litter I was waiting to get a puppy from was 3 boys. I wouldn't trade my boy for anything in the world! He has been so easy to train, and doesn't lift his leg or hump. He will be 6 months old next week, so not sure what's in store down the road as he is my only dog. He is SUPER affectionate, and loves to snugggle. I think each dog has their own personality- it doesn't really matter boy/girl sex. The breeder should be able to tell you their personality by 6 weeks of age or so. Jato was the puppy who always wanted to be in the breeders lap when she sat on the floor with the puppies. That's what I was looking for. :lotsaluv: Good Luck!

21st May 2008, 04:46 PM
After reading all of this Sparky is so typical of the breed & is totaly in love with me. during the evenin I usualy slob out on the sofa & Sparky bounds at me & either sleeps with his head on my heart or his chest in my face, almost smothering me - like he loves me to death!! My other half often says to me that I am only short of breast feeding him as we're so close!:eek:

Regarding the sex issue though, my last dog Leo (neutered male chinese crested x maltese) was extreemly loving too - not to the extent Sparks is but he allways wanted to either be with me or know where I was, whereas Cassie (spayed female jack russell) likes the odd cuddle but much prefers her own space & own bed - inless she wants to be with you & then she's all over me!

The reason when we got Sparky that we got a male was that we though as Cass had lived with another male & can be narky with other dogs a male would work out better & she does love him to bits. In the future I think we will get another male cav but not untill Cass goes to the bridge (which hopefully won't be for a good number of years yet).

21st May 2008, 05:11 PM
I have two boys and I wouldnt change it for the world. I was once told that if you are a female and you want a dog that is hopelessly devoted to you that you should get a male Cavalier.

My situation only confirms this. My two boys are crazy about me (although they love my husband too) but they always are lovey with me.

21st May 2008, 06:40 PM
I've always had male dogs (all non-Cavalier) and when it came to getting our first Cavalier I insisted upon a female. This was not based on personality traits I was expecting but rather I became sick to death of the leg cocking. My male dogs have killed more than their fair share of trees and plants and putting a vegetable garden was always out of the question if I didn't expect urine all over my tomatoes. Also, I was fed up with all the marking while out on a walk. I couldn't (still can't as I still have an elderly male at home) walk by a tree, pole, mailbox, fence post, fire hydrant, car tire, etc., without having to stop to accommodate sniffing and marking. Maggie pees only when she needs to and walks merrily along by my side, only stopping when my male dog has to leave his calling card.

I can't imagine a more loving dog - if males are more loving than this, I think I would feel smothered!

21st May 2008, 08:34 PM
I have both and I love them both. I think if I were to get another puppy, I would choose one based on the temperament and looks, and not the sex. I really don't think one is better than the other- they are ALL amazing! :rah:

10th March 2013, 09:18 PM
You are SO right!!!!!! Our little Annie is a love. Teddy is IN love with us.