congratulations jasmine--that's wonderful news. I have one child, now 23 years old, and it was the most wonderful experience of my life, a life with many wonderful experiences. It was the ultimate peak for me, in terms of inspiration and transformation and profound love like i'd never felt before. It was quite hard for me in lots of ways, not too hard, i could handle it, and handling it was so good for me, but it was truly hard. As it worked out, i never had a second child but i always knew that if i had, it would've been easier, i would've been more laid back and would've learned from some mistakes.
for me, having a puppy would've been hard because i was quite stretched with my daughter the first year. I was 34 and used to doing what i wanted and having my space to myself, it was a real change, and i would long for her nap so i could be alone with my thoughts, and could think about things. i liked to think in those days. :lol: That first year, my daughter woke up a lot during the night, nursing on demand, and that really made me crazy. So, and i'm saying this partly in answer to Maxwell and Me about why someone would not want to have a puppy and baby at the same time. I'm just speaking for me, and i think Maxwell and Me makes a good point, that for some it can be a positive thing. I wasn't lonely much when my daughter was a baby, i loved having some solitude. Anyway, it might have been nice to have a puppy at that time, but the way i remember it, i think it would've stressed me out more. when i got Zack, he was sick with colitis, and then vomiting too, and i had to take him to the ER at midnight. I was going to the vet three times a week and i was going nuts, it was one of the most stressful unhappy scary depressing experiences i've ever had, and it wasn't even a serious illness, once i finally found a vet who knew what was wrong with him, but that took 5 weeks that lasted forever. To have had a baby too, that would've been even worse, i would've felt guilty for not being there enough for either one of them.
Remember the movie, Lady and the Tramp, when Jim Dear and Darling have their baby, and Lady starts being neglected and she is so hurt and sad, and doesn't understand why she's not the center of attention anymore? I am sure there are families where that can happen. That wonderful movie tried to tell the story from the dog's perspective. Of course, cavaliers are irresistable so they can probably find a way to fit into the picture, like in mic's and maxwell/me's families. But Lady seemed just like a Cavalier. :|
ok, it wasn't real life. :lol:
Having said all that, i can imagine how sad you must be, having looked forward to having your puppy and dreamed of how it was going to be, and getting to share your experiences with others. Of course, you'll have a puppy some day. I can understand your caution about doing it right before the baby's due, but i know it must be disappointing.
maybe you can find a discussion forum for people with new babies?
i know it's not the same. But seriously, it would've been so cool for me if i had had the internet when my daughter was a baby and i was tied down. I actually started taking prerequisites for a graduate program in educational psychology when my daughter was 7 months old and started the masters program full time when she was 14 months, but it was great, i was studying child development and psychology and it was quite helpful to me in raising her.
i am happy for you, for the adventure you are embarking on. I know you will love it, and before long, you will have your doggy too, and your child will have a wonderful companion. :flwr: