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27th February 2007, 08:36 PM
Within 1-1/2 years I lost my Cavalier boys...Rudy was 9 when the Vet discovered he had collasping trachea...without opening old wounds, I will just say, it took 4 Vets to diagnose his condition. After 3 days in intensive care and a tracheotomy, I had to let him go.
Thankfully, I still had King....until last week. He was 13 years, 3 months..he'd been on heart medication for the dreaded murmur that plaques our Cavaliers, for 4 years. He just stopped eating, blood tests showed extremely high liver levels, I opted to treat him at home with i.v. fluids, after 3 days he began eating. However, that was short lived and I had to let him go. I consented to having his liver biopsied in the hope it might help another's loving critter. It appears the heart medication took its toll on his precious body. There are no words to describe the overwhelming feeling of loss, they were my "love sponges" and unique in so many ways. I can't be without a "Cav" in my life, things are meant to be, last June, Charlie entered my life...he wasn't abused, but, perhaps neglected. He was with a family that had 4 other dogs, all living outside and a houseful of small children...it was not a life for a Cavalier! A dear friend found a small ad in the local paper saying "good home needed for a Cavalier."
The best we can do is make oursleves aware of the health issues, have regular check-ups and always request blood work after the age of 7. My boys will live on in my heart. When I get King home, I can kiss him goodnight and good morning, just like I do with Rudy....

27th February 2007, 09:22 PM
Bless you Reenie...you have been through a lot. But the good news is that you have your new Cavalier love sponge to keep you happy!

I'm so sorry for your losses and I hope being a member of this board will bring you much happiness! Please post pics of your Charlie when you can.

Cathy T
27th February 2007, 10:55 PM
Reenie - so sorry for you loss. To lose two of them so closely together has to have really taken its toll on you. So wonderful that you were able to open your heart up to Charlie who sounds like you're just what he needed.

matties mum
28th February 2007, 07:11 AM
Reenie I am so sorry for your lost ----Aileen and the gang ( Jazzie---Barney----Sam)

Claire L
28th February 2007, 02:14 PM
Hi Reenie, so glad you found us and so sorry for your loss :( it's hard enough to lose one, but two in such a short space must be so devastating.

Glad you have Charlie in your life now.

:flwr: :hug:

28th February 2007, 08:04 PM
You are in our thoughts and prayers. Having to let go even for those of our canine companions who have lived long lives if hard. I am certain both of your boys will be waiting for you at the Bridge. :flwr:

28th February 2007, 10:41 PM
Renee I am so sorry that you lost both your boys and so close together.

Let's hope that Charlie helps to heal your heart a little :flwr:

1st March 2007, 04:04 PM
Thinking of you :flwr:

1st March 2007, 05:01 PM
Thank you! I am so glad I found this board. I don't know how to post pictures, but I can tell you about my wonderful boys. King was a Blenheim, Rudy and Charlie was/is Tri. King was a big boy for a Cavalier, Rudy was "medium" size and Charlie is small, all incredibly beautiful with distict personalities and unique characteristics.
I have a wall full of pictures, so they will always be home with me. I know they are together and we will be reunited.

2nd March 2007, 06:52 PM
My thoughts are with you - it's so hard losing these gentle souls.

My Sasha had laryngeal prolapse at age 3 - she currently has one side of throat sutured back - she has been having lots of throat problems since December, so I'm getting worried again. I was lucky I had a vet who found her problem after thinking it was something else and did emergency surgery.


8th March 2007, 09:52 PM
I came across this lovely and and thought others would appreciate it. Sorry, I don't know who authored it.

The Seventh Sense

A single tear falls from my eye, then, others follow closely by,
Skin craves a touch from your dear paw, my heart so broken and so raw,
Eyes scan for your familiar form, from old resting spots, they won’t be torn... Nose poised for your familiar scent, my head in sorrow, deeply bent... Ears wish to hear familiar sounds, heart aches with each successive pound, Eating has lost all its favour, to swallow hard and yet not to savour, How hard it is to feel again, wrenching my chest with waves of pain...

Then, my sixth sense feels you are so near, here in my thoughts my sweetest dear, I close my eyes and see your face, fall into your eyes - that magic place, I feel my love again to flow, feel your love returned, a special glow, Sweet memories now do flood my mind, wash the pain and then replace, in kind. Time is all that holds me from your embrace, but to be here now, is my right place I have so much to do till we – joyously, side by side, forever be!

You taught me well dear friend and tutor, to love with full voice – to allow no mute here! Love unconditional, is now my fate, to my heart here on earth I will now reopen my gate, My sweet, kind, clever and generous friend, you truly taught me that ‘love really has no end’, To give ones heart, with no conditions, is to beat life’s cancer ‘loneliness’ beyond remission...This was your gift, this sense you gave me, no ‘ifs’ or ‘buts’, no room for a ‘maybe’! You are here with me now I know, and guide my heart to others to care for now!
This Seventh sense becomes my way, to get through each “without you” day.

Claire L
9th March 2007, 10:37 AM
Reenie, that is just so beautiful :thnku: I am going to print it off and frame it . I am putting together a collage of my Rudee's pics and this poem will be perfect. Thank you so very much for sharing :flwr: :flwr:

:hug: :hug: :hug: :thnku:

9th March 2007, 03:54 PM
So sorry for your loss. :flwr: :flwr:

They'll always have a home in your heart. :flwr: :flwr:

11th March 2007, 05:03 PM
Shari, I just read your post about Sasha, I know exactly what you are going through and how you feel! Rudy's collasped trachea wasn't diagnosed until it was too late. I know we can't live with "what ifs" but, still I wonder why the 3 prior Vets I'd taken him to couldn't have helped him. He started those nasty, gagging, snorting episodes at age 4. I was told to give him Baby aspirin, Benenedryl, pepcid, diet change, less exercise, etc...when he was 6, his heart murmur was discovered, that Vet assured me it was the cause of the episodes., although the medication seemed to help, he still had spells.....it wasn't until a blade of grass became lodged in his nasal passage and he needed anesthisia to remove it, the real condition was discovered. At that point, he was given antibiotics and a syrup. He was too "old" for surgery and also had the dreaded murmur. 3 months later, he had a terrible episode, after 3 days in intensive care and a tracheotomy, he was no better. I had to let him go, again the "what ifs" plaqued my mind, should I have put him through the trach, I'd already been told he was too old for surgery, did I make him suffer more, I was desperate, I wanted him well, I loved him so much, he trusted me, I'll never know....his loss still pains my heart. Loosing King has intensified my pain, we grieved together when Rudy was gone. Rudy and King were on the same heart meds, I'm told it's what caused King's liver damage, it makes me wonder if the cure adds to the the cause.
In short, if my loss of Rudy and your post about Sasha alerts other Cav owners about this horrible condition, perhaps it will help. Rudy was a "Tri" it seems they are more prone to breathing related problems. In Rudy's memory, I alert others, I sent copies of an article entitled "Brachycelphalia Syndrome" to local Vets and Cavalier Clubs. This gives me some level of comfort....having Charlie is wonderful, although he must endure an overly protective Mom!
Bless you and Sasha!

Joanne M
11th March 2007, 10:31 PM
Thank you Reenie for sharing your loving tribute to King and Rudy. I also appreciate the information regarding the trachea condition. I'm sorry for your loss. God bless you and Charlie.

20th March 2007, 07:18 AM
...again the "what ifs" plaqued my mind, should I have put him through the trach, I'd already been told he was too old for surgery, did I make him suffer more, I was desperate, I wanted him well, I loved him so much, he trusted me, I'll never know...

no--i don't believe he suffered from the surgery, he was on anaesthesia, his spirit felt your love and longing to save him, his trust in you was well placed. he probably had an easier death under anaesthesia than he would've if you hadn't tried the surgery.

it was his time, he had serious illnesses that you did nothing to cause and did everything you could to help make better. i'm so sorry you had to lose him.

thank you for sharing the story. I'm sure it will help any of us who must go through this, to be more aware and to learn from what happened to rudy, the toxic medications and the missed diagnosis. thanks for using your painful experience to try to help others.

20th March 2007, 01:34 PM
Thank you, everyone! This board had helped me so much. In retrospect, the Vet told me King had the classic symptoms of Cushing Disease. At his age, treatment would of been questionable. Judy, you put it in perspective, it was "their" time with all my beloveds.
Since King's passing, my husband has been diagnosed with cancer, we are in the middle of a maze of testing, etc. and I know there is no way I could go with him to his appointments and be worried about leaving King home alone. He served me well in life and death.

I carry a print out of Rudy's condition and at one of my husbands appoinments, I chatted with a lady about her "coughing" dog and the frustration she is going through. Numerous Vets and still no diagnosis, perhaps the information will help her.

If ever King had a "twin," it was Izzy, seeing his picture posted was a reflection of my boy. I extend my sympathies to his special ones.

Mabel's Mom
26th March 2007, 04:35 PM
My heart breaks for you. I had to put Mabel down last week. They become such a huge part of our lives...when they go, they leave a huge hole. I try to take comfort that Mabel isn't suffering anymore. Niether are your precious boys.

26th March 2007, 06:30 PM
I'm so sorry...will be thinking of you! :flwr: