murphy's mum
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I feel a little annoyed at the moment, I've just had a heated discussion with a 'friend' of mine about Murphy. My O/H and I are wanting to get a second Cavalier soon now that Murphy has matured. I mentioned it in passing to my friend, who reacted with complete disbelief. He then proceed to list everything Murphy and the two of us do wrong, and how wrong it would be to add to the family.
I disagree, but then wonder if I seen things in our household with rose coloured glasses? Don't get me wrong I know Murphy is far from perfectly behaved, but to us he really is perfect. Not in the sense that I feel we let him away with murder or anything.
Do you think Murphy is dominant? He sleeps on the bed between us, he's allowed on the couch when he wants, he gets the run of the house, he jumps up to greet us when we come home sometimes. BUT none of these thing bother us, we have chosen to let him do these thing.
When I stroke his chest he will normally lay his paw across my arm, is this him 'ruling' me? I was told it was a sure sign of dominance over us. I feel so confused If he does something wrong and he gets told off he puts his tail low and then shuffles over all apologetic. The few occasions I've shouted at him he has lay down and shown his belly.
He pulls on the lead, but I believe this was due to us having an extending lead, and never really working hard to get him to walk correctly(totally our fault). This is something we are going to work on. We normally walk him off the lead are we have loads of good off road place to walk, and his recall is 95% good. To the point where he likes to chase birds but he does(95%) come as soon as called.
As I said far from perfect, but apart from the lead thing, nothing bothers us, should it? Do we let him away with murder? Please give me honest opinions no matter how harsh
I disagree, but then wonder if I seen things in our household with rose coloured glasses? Don't get me wrong I know Murphy is far from perfectly behaved, but to us he really is perfect. Not in the sense that I feel we let him away with murder or anything.
Do you think Murphy is dominant? He sleeps on the bed between us, he's allowed on the couch when he wants, he gets the run of the house, he jumps up to greet us when we come home sometimes. BUT none of these thing bother us, we have chosen to let him do these thing.
When I stroke his chest he will normally lay his paw across my arm, is this him 'ruling' me? I was told it was a sure sign of dominance over us. I feel so confused If he does something wrong and he gets told off he puts his tail low and then shuffles over all apologetic. The few occasions I've shouted at him he has lay down and shown his belly.
He pulls on the lead, but I believe this was due to us having an extending lead, and never really working hard to get him to walk correctly(totally our fault). This is something we are going to work on. We normally walk him off the lead are we have loads of good off road place to walk, and his recall is 95% good. To the point where he likes to chase birds but he does(95%) come as soon as called.
As I said far from perfect, but apart from the lead thing, nothing bothers us, should it? Do we let him away with murder? Please give me honest opinions no matter how harsh