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estelle
18th March 2008, 06:30 PM
Hi everyone,
I havn't been on for a while but thought i'd update on Bailey, it's not good news. We had to go see a specialist today who gave him a thorough check over, he's still coughing despite being on antibiotics since day one, he now has a heart problem which he thinks is to do with a liver shunt? aswell as having the patella problem in both legs. He told us that there really isn't anything they can do for him and that it would be better for all of us to think about having him put to sleep, sooner rather than later. When I asked how soon he said that by the time he's 10/11 months he will be in pain with his legs, that gives us 4 months left with him!! unless anything happens beforehand? He's not in any pain at the moment but we have to watch out for him jumping up ang running up and down the stairs in case he pulls something in his legs, then he'll be in pain.
He's such a sweetheart, really naughty and a real joy to watch it's so sad to look at him knowing what his future holds. All we can do now is fuss him as much as possible and give him all the treats in the world!!
We really dont know how to tell our 7 year old, she absolutely adores him.

Halina
18th March 2008, 06:34 PM
I am so sorry :(. We will keep you in our prayers. Loosing our pets is like loosing a a child.

TillyTommy
18th March 2008, 06:37 PM
Sorry to hear your sad news. Just take advantage of every day:)

Cathryn
18th March 2008, 07:22 PM
OMG! How absolutley awful, I am terribly sorry to hear this, just make the very most of every day you have with him :hug: :flwr:

Justine
18th March 2008, 08:11 PM
Sorry to here the sad news.

Thelly
18th March 2008, 08:18 PM
So sorry to hear your news about Bailey. :hug: from all of us.

Barbara Nixon
18th March 2008, 08:26 PM
This is so sad, but take heart, as I'm one of a few on here who were told their dog had little time and ended up with a couple of years.

pippa
18th March 2008, 08:30 PM
So sorry to hear about little Bailey,how sad.

Aileen
18th March 2008, 09:55 PM
I am so sorry about Bailey:hug:
----Aileen and the gang (Barney---Jazzie---Sam)

Ashley
18th March 2008, 10:03 PM
I'm so very sorry to hear about Bailey. My thoughts are with you all! :(

Cleo's Person
18th March 2008, 10:49 PM
Oh my goodness - I'm so very sorry to hear about Bailey. :hug: :hug: him close and tight and I hope you enjoy all the time you have left together. You are in my thoughts.

*Pauline*
18th March 2008, 10:53 PM
I'm so sorry :hug: We are all here to listen and try to support you through this so please post when you need to get things off your chest :hug:

estelle
18th March 2008, 11:18 PM
Thanks everyone, it's all I can think of now when I look at him and i'm sure Charlie knows too, when we got home with Bailey he went and laid with him in his bed, he doesn't normally do that unless he's told "bed"
Still don't know how to break the news to my youngest? she's going to be so heartbroken and I know she'll say to me "But mummy why can't the vet make him better"

Karlin
18th March 2008, 11:34 PM
I'm sorry you are going through this. Personally, I would not go tell a 7 year old that a loved animal has to be pts at some distance in the future as that will only be a cause of panic for all those coming months. I would simply never burden a child with advance knowledge like this. I would always be honest with a child but there are levels of exposure and times to talk. This isn't the time. Knowing this may come in four months is an ADULT's level of exposure and grief and isn't right for a young child. In addition you don't know what you will be dealing with until you get there. Just wait and see how things go. Give him a good life now and deal with the issue when it comes. Sometimes dogs have a way of surprising people. I've heard of lots of short term prognoses where the animal lives for years. If you don't feel able for this or the decision, then maybe talk to breed rescue?

Lynn
18th March 2008, 11:36 PM
I am so sorry about this heartbreaking news. I understand how deeply we can fall in love with these precious little ones and the thought of having to lose little Bailey so young makes it worse. Please know we are all here for you and many prayers will be said for you, your family & Bailey. :hug:

deborahjane
18th March 2008, 11:38 PM
really sorry to hear about Bailey. My thoughts and love are with you:(

Caraline
19th March 2008, 01:31 AM
I am sorry to hear your little guy has all these issues. Like Karlin says, I would not be writing him off just yet, and why burden your 7 year old with the possibility that his dog may have to be pts.

Everybody (especially your child) should just enjoy every day with your dog, and jumps the hard hurdles when you get to them.

cb2u
19th March 2008, 01:43 AM
I'm so sorry to read about your sad news; it's heartbreaking. :( :(

I agree that you should keep this from your child for as long as possible.... this type of news can only serve to create sadness, anxiety & fear. You'll know when the time is right to break the news. Your child should enjoy Bailey with a clear mind & happy heart for as long as possible. In this regard, how great it is to be a child....

Rosewoodsteel
19th March 2008, 01:52 AM
This is so sad, but take heart, as I'm one of a few on here who were told their dog had little time and ended up with a couple of years.

+1 to that!
Enjoy each day with the little guy.
No one knows with absolute certainty how long any of us or our four legged friends have.
God bless you and Bailey and enjoy your time together.

Aileen
19th March 2008, 08:04 AM
This is so sad, but take heart, as I'm one of a few on here who were told their dog had little time and ended up with a couple of years.
Plus 2

----Aileen and the gang (Barney---Jazzie---Sam)

coconut
19th March 2008, 08:53 AM
i am really sorry to hear this!

qwickkertje
19th March 2008, 10:03 AM
I'm so sorry :(
Enjoy every moment you can spend with him and yeah well spoil him as much as you can :)

gloucester girl
19th March 2008, 11:03 AM
Keep your spirits up and enjoy Bailey! We're all thinking of you, best wishes, Susanne and Frankie :paw:x:paw:x:paw:x

Cathryn
19th March 2008, 11:12 AM
I'm a +3 to being given so long to live and exceeding it too, by 3 and a half years!

Don't give up hope, ever! :hug: :hug: :flwr: :flwr:

rocky
19th March 2008, 12:10 PM
so sorry to hear your news i have been thinking about you all morning it's so hard trying to put a brave face on at times but unfortunately it comes to us all it's just so cruel that he is so young he should have a lot more living to do, take care and enjoy every moment you have with him i'm sure he could't have gone to a nicer home than yours and i'm sure he'll never forget you and your family but remember miracles can happen too just wait and see what happens take each day as it comes.

Sue.k
19th March 2008, 01:13 PM
I am so sorry about Bailey, enjoy every moment with him

Sandrac
19th March 2008, 03:42 PM
So sorry to hear about Bailey, such a baby too. As everyone else is saying just enjoy every moment with him and take each day as it comes.:flwr:

Ruth
19th March 2008, 03:58 PM
I had a ruby puppy boy with slipping patellas both legs that I was advised to gently lead walk up hills, he also had episodic falling and a heart problem so I opted out of an operation on him, deciding to let nature take its course and that we would just enjoy what little time we had with him, (he was six months old).
I lost him about five months ago ..... he was almost 14yrs old and had more problems than I could ever list...... there is always hope.....

Good luck with your little lad,
Ruth

Barbara Nixon
19th March 2008, 07:57 PM
It was mainly Ruth's Teddy that I had in mind when posting. That boy was a real fighter.

Claire L
19th March 2008, 09:12 PM
Estelle, I'm sorry to hear the news on Bailey :( there isn't really anything that I can add that hasn't already been said by someone. Just wanted to let you know that I'll be keeping Bailey in my prayers. Enjoy every moment with him and try not to think about the bad stuff; it might not happen for a long time :xfngr:
Big :hug: 's to you all.

Cathryn
19th March 2008, 09:47 PM
I had a ruby puppy boy with slipping patellas both legs that I was advised to gently lead walk up hills, he also had episodic falling and a heart problem so I opted out of an operation on him, deciding to let nature take its course and that we would just enjoy what little time we had with him, (he was six months old).
I lost him about five months ago ..... he was almost 14yrs old and had more problems than I could ever list...... there is always hope.....

Good luck with your little lad,
Ruth

Wow!! What an incredible age Ruth!! As you say, there is always hope...!! :hug:

Cathy T
19th March 2008, 11:23 PM
There is always hope....don't give up and be sure to enjoy each day to its fullest. When Jake was diagnosed with cancer he was given a prognosis of 6 months.....that was 3 1/2 years ago!! Please don't give up, you never know. I think it's best to be prepared but remain optimistic. It's a shame to say your goodbyes and grieve before necessary. I know it's difficult but try to keep your chin up.

estelle
20th March 2008, 12:02 AM
Thanks again everyone, I really do feel more optimistic after reading some of your replies, we just don't know how long we've got left with him, could be 4 months or 4 yrs but were going to enjoy and cherish every single day.
We've also decided not to tell Ebony (our youngest) until we absolutely have to.
Thanks again

Remali
20th March 2008, 02:53 AM
Oh gosh I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better, I hope and pray your Bailey is with you a long time and you get a miracle.

Karlin
20th March 2008, 03:20 AM
This might be helpful:

http://www.deesdogs.com/documents/explainingpetdeathtochildren.pdf