I am glad we didnt crate her, if we go out we do keep her in the kitchen with the baby gate but i think because we have given her more freedom she isnt taking advantage of it, she is 9 months now.
You might want to reconsider this, and maybe read a bit more about crate training is I think there's a misunderstanding of why people do it
Crate training a dog is actually one of the best things that you can do!
The intention is not that you keep your dog in a crate all the time, but that you can safely put your dog into a crate for car transport (having a dog loose in a car is not only dangerous and potentially lethal for the dog, but for every single passenger. Braking at only 25 mph could hurl a dog with such force that it would break the neck of any human struck by the dog). A crate is much safer than a harness for car travel as well. It also means your dog can be transported if it is ever needed, by plane or train or car, and also that your dog can be taken on your travels–because many hotels will accept a small dog that is crate trained, and a crate trained dog will sleep happily and safely in a crate while owners are out without damaging a hotel or a rental cottage.
aAll the cottages are I have rented preferred that dogs be left in crates when people are out doing other activities
Crates are also used by every single person I know who offers home boarding services, which are generally a much nicer way to leave your dog when you travel than putting them into a kennel. It is risky to leave a group of dogs that don't know each other loose and wandering around, and any home boarding situation which boards dogs in this kind of way should be avoided. Each dog should have a separate crate. It is really nice to have this option instead of needing a kennel, and it also is generally very welcome by friends or relatives who might mind a dog when people are away, to have the option of having the dog in a crate at night.
Most dogs will actually mostly crate train themselves if you simply provide a crate, leave the door open, have a comfy lining they can sleep on inside the crate, and then put toys in and toss a few treats in there from time to time. Many dogs will choose to sleep by choice in a crate as opposed yo out in a dog bed because it is like a doghouse/den for them. For example, if dogs are penned in the kitchen, a covered crate can be left available for them to sleep inside (I like wire crates covered with a light blanket or cloth to create more of a den).
I just cannot stress enough how endlessly useful it is to have a dog that is crate trained. And again, that it has nothing to do with confining the dog during the day.
I would never crate my dogs for a full day–never for more than a short while if I'm out. Otherwise, normally three have the downstairs of the house to rest in end two are gated into the kitchen because they are not reliable at house training (because one is elderly and on heart meds that make her pee frequently and the other is a former puppy farm dog who was house trained as an adult and is never completely reliable).