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Karlin
1st July 2011, 12:07 PM
I am sad to let my friends here know that my lovely little Lucy passed away peacefully Wednesday morning, in her sleep -- she was still curled in a ball in a nice soft basket, with Tansy nearby. Lucy has been the most wonderful dog, with a strong and quirky personality that has been a delight to know since she came to my family as a retired breeding girl around age 7. She was just a few weeks from her 12th birthday.

As many know, Lucy had been struggling with MVD and CHF for some time. She was an incredibly resilient and strong little dog -- she had lived without needing meds for a grade 5 murmur for over a year and was well up for active walks until last summer. Last autumn she needed finally to start on meds and did really well until around February when she started having more difficulty. I thought a couple of times since then that it might be her time, but I learned so much about the determination and bravery of this breed and about managing MVD from Lucy: given a little time and some extra frusimide, and eventually the addition of spironolactone, which stopped her occasional fainting spells from MVD completely for a couple of months, she had a very good quality of life (albeit with no further walks except a little snuffle around outside, and needing to carry her up and down stairs and lift her on and off sofas :) ).

As my vet says, most other dogs with a grade 5 murmur might last a few weeks at most, but cavaliers are often, unpredictably, able to manage with this terrible disease for months and even years.

Indeed she had been doing so well that I began to think she might well go on for several months -- she already had lived nearly 5 months since I had thought she had reached her final day. I was just about to arrange for her to return to the cardiologist to get his opinion on where she was now and what more might be done. But she had a couple of wobbly spells last week, just before I had to go to the US -- a trip I could not avoid, as my own much adored father passed away a few weeks ago and last Sunday was his remembrance/life celebration lunch in California.

Thelly had the care of my crew and knew all about Lucy and I fully trusted her to take any needed decisions. I had felt I might not see Lucy again and had given her a special hug and kiss when I handed her over. The whole week that I was away passed without incident, but when I landed I had a message from Thelly, that Lucy had passed away only hours earlier. :( I was so sad not to be there with her, but I was so happy that she had the rare blessing of passing peacefully in her sleep. She had enjoyed her bedtime treats with her usual gusto and was not in distress as she went to sleep the night before.

I am very grateful to Thelly for caring so willingly and lovingly for my Lucy at a time that was difficult for me, which was generous and kind. She also knew that Lucy was to go to the vet school hospital in Dublin to be part of Margaret Carter's Tissue Collection scheme (http://www.cavaliertalk.com/forums/showthread.php?28230-The-Syringomyelia-Cavalier-Collection-Scheme) for cavalier health research, and thus Lucy -- who was already MRI scanned for research as clear of SM at age 9, and was therefore a very helpful dog for SM research -- was able to further help the SM DNA work, and other projects on SM and MVD at a number of UK institutions.

Like Marie-Anne (Wagtails) and Nicki and others whose dogs have gone to this important project, I encourage anyone with an ill or older cavalier to contact Margaret or Tania about the possibility of having your dog help the entire breed in this way. It is deeply consoling at a hard time. There are arrangements for dogs in either the UK or Ireland to take part.

2011 has been a sad time -- saying farewell to my dad, to Quincy and to Lucy in the period of a few short months. I would like to imagine dad somewhere with couple of warm furries on his lap. When she lived with my parents, he often walked Lucy to get his exercise in each day and she always made him laugh, not least as she often brought a collection of socks and other objects she cherished to a nest in the middle of their bed.

Lucy and Quincy, perhaps reunited somewhere now, on a similarly soft sofa :):

http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4090/4844485625_dfc1130a03.jpg

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3111/2584859334_f5e9976f62_z.jpg

And my dad:

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/05/13/MNLILLINGT14.DTL

M (http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/05/13/MNLILLINGT14.DTL)uch love to you all.

Brian M
1st July 2011, 12:12 PM
Hi

So sorry Karlin ,we all share your sadness and shed a tear with you at this difficult time.

Kindest Wishes
Brian ,Dawn and Luke
with
Poppy,Daisy,Rosie and Lily:(

team bella
1st July 2011, 12:45 PM
Hi Karlin

So sorry for your loss, its been a tough 2011 indeed but sending you lots of love and positive healing.

:hug::hug:

anniemac
1st July 2011, 12:57 PM
I am so so sorry karlin for all your losses this year. I've been thinking of you and I got choked up to see this. What a wonderful life she had and has helped many cavaliers in her life and now in her passing.

Prayers
Anne

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merello
1st July 2011, 02:03 PM
Sorry for your loss:hug:

Carol x

Sydneys Mom
1st July 2011, 02:17 PM
So sorry for your loss Karlin.

gamefanz
1st July 2011, 02:35 PM
I'm so very sorry Karlin. You are in my thoughts today. Many hugs:hug:
Becky

sunshinekisses
1st July 2011, 02:35 PM
so sad...I am sorry about your loss and you are right, somewhere your dad is sharing his lap with two warm furries.
The paper did a beautiful tribute to your dad.

susandavis1
1st July 2011, 03:01 PM
I am so sorry to hear of all your losses this year Karlin. What a lovely tribute to Lucy, I think someplace, somewhere she is with your Dad and Quincy. Keeping you in my thoughts at this difficult time :flwr:

Charlifarley
1st July 2011, 03:05 PM
I'm so sorry to read about lovely Lucy, and that was a great tribute to your dad too. I hope that happier days are ahead now, for the humans and the furries in your life.
Take care
Shirley

matties mum
1st July 2011, 03:43 PM
I am so very sorry
---Aileen

Desrae
1st July 2011, 04:22 PM
Oh dear Karlin. I'm so sorry. It must be so difficult losing so many of your loved ones in such a short time. As you said though, Lucy got the rare blessing of passing away in her sleep. Run free Lucy!:hug:

emsley
1st July 2011, 04:45 PM
I am so very sorry
My heart goes out to you

3cavies
1st July 2011, 04:46 PM
Karlin,
My heart goes out to you. I am truly sorry for your loss. You have obviously touched the lives of many, both canine and human. Just know that many are thinking of you during this difficult time.

EvelynF
1st July 2011, 05:10 PM
Very sorry for your loss. Run free Lucy

sins
1st July 2011, 05:38 PM
So sorry to hear of Lucy's passing.What a life she's had though,very fitting that she passed peacefully and on her own terms.I know how much she meant to you she'll be very much missed.
How are the other dogs taking it?
Sins

Nicki
1st July 2011, 06:07 PM
Lucy was a very special girl, treasured by her wonderful breeder, then rehomed to a loving home with your parents. She adjusted so well to her new life with you, and has always been loved - the special attention she has received helped her cope with her progressing illness. These older giriles are such fighters, they do not give in easily and it's incredible how they can battle on against the odds.

It was good to hear that she passed so peacefully, with her favourite companion, and I'm sure she is reunited with Quincy and your Father somewhere. The photos of her with Quincy are lovely - I remember to start with she wasn't too keen on the cats :(


We are thinking of you - too many losses so close together :(



Tribute to a best friend

Sunlight streams through window pane
unto a spot on the floor....
then I remember,
it's where you used to lie,
but now you are no more.
Our feet walk down a hall of carpet,
and muted echoes sound....
then I remember,
It's where your paws would joyously abound.
A voice is heard along the road,
and up beyond the hill,
then I remember it can't be yours....
your golden voice is still.
But I'll take that vacant spot of floor
and empty muted hall
and lay them with the absent voice
and unused dish along the wall.
I'll wrap these treasured memorials
in a blanket of my love
and keep them for my best friend
until we meet above.

robbieswan
1st July 2011, 06:11 PM
Karlin. Iam so sorry for your loss xxxxxx

Blondiemonster
1st July 2011, 06:26 PM
Karlin im sorry for your loss. your post is touching. Lucy reminds me a lot of my little Blondie, the same quirky and sweet expression. I am so happy for her that she got to pass so peacefully. Its given to very few lucky dogs. What a wonderful age as well. Big hugs and Love to you in these times of loss. I lost my own father when i was only 15 , and i know what it feels like to no longer have that special man in your life.

Furrfoot
1st July 2011, 06:33 PM
I am so sorry. What an incredibly painful time for you; prayers for you and yours for comfort...

lorebringer
1st July 2011, 06:34 PM
Hard times Karlin, terrible loss(es), you're in my thoughts.

Love my Cavaliers
1st July 2011, 07:08 PM
I'm so sorry Karlin. Even when you expect it, it's so hard, especially when you can't be there at their last moment. At least you are comforted by the knowledge that she died peacefully. I'm so sorry about you dad also. I can just picture your dad, Quincy and Lucy all walking together and then taking a break and the little furry ones curling up in his lap for a nap. Run like the wind Lucy!

Claire L
1st July 2011, 07:32 PM
Sincere condolences to you and your extended family on your father's passing. May he R.I.P

So sorry to read about Quincy and sweet Lucy.

Claire

goda
1st July 2011, 08:38 PM
I am sad to let my friends here know that my lovely little Lucy passed away peacefully Wednesday morning, in her sleep -- she was still curled in a ball in a nice soft basket, with Tansy nearby. Lucy has been the most wonderful dog, with a strong and quirky personality that has been a delight to know since she came to my family as a retired breeding girl around age 7. She was just a few weeks from her 12th birthday.

As many know, Lucy had been struggling with MVD and CHF for some time. She was an incredibly resilient and strong little dog -- she had lived without needing meds for a grade 5 murmur for over a year and was well up for active walks until last summer. Last autumn she needed finally to start on meds and did really well until around February when she started having more difficulty. I thought a couple of times since then that it might be her time, but I learned so much about the determination and bravery of this breed and about managing MVD from Lucy: given a little time and some extra frusimide, and eventually the addition of spironolactone, which stopped her occasional fainting spells from MVD completely for a couple of months, she had a very good quality of life (albeit with no further walks except a little snuffle around outside, and needing to carry her up and down stairs and lift her on and off sofas :) ).

As my vet says, most other dogs with a grade 5 murmur might last a few weeks at most, but cavaliers are often, unpredictably, able to manage with this terrible disease for months and even years.

Indeed she had been doing so well that I began to think she might well go on for several months -- she already had lived nearly 5 months since I had thought she had reached her final day. I was just about to arrange for her to return to the cardiologist to get his opinion on where she was now and what more might be done. But she had a couple of wobbly spells last week, just before I had to go to the US -- a trip I could not avoid, as my own much adored father passed away a few weeks ago and last Sunday was his remembrance/life celebration lunch in California.

Thelly had the care of my crew and knew all about Lucy and I fully trusted her to take any needed decisions. I had felt I might not see Lucy again and had given her a special hug and kiss when I handed her over. The whole week that I was away passed without incident, but when I landed I had a message from Thelly, that Lucy had passed away only hours earlier. :( I was so sad not to be there with her, but I was so happy that she had the rare blessing of passing peacefully in her sleep. She had enjoyed her bedtime treats with her usual gusto and was not in distress as she went to sleep the night before.

I am very grateful to Thelly for caring so willingly and lovingly for my Lucy at a time that was difficult for me, which was generous and kind. She also knew that Lucy was to go to the vet school hospital in Dublin to be part of Margaret Carter's Tissue Collection scheme (http://www.cavaliertalk.com/forums/showthread.php?28230-The-Syringomyelia-Cavalier-Collection-Scheme) for cavalier health research, and thus Lucy -- who was already MRI scanned for research as clear of SM at age 9, and was therefore a very helpful dog for SM research -- was able to further help the SM DNA work, and other projects on SM and MVD at a number of UK institutions.

Like Marie-Anne (Wagtails) and Nicki and others whose dogs have gone to this important project, I encourage anyone with an ill or older cavalier to contact Margaret or Tania about the possibility of having your dog help the entire breed in this way. It is deeply consoling at a hard time. There are arrangements for dogs in either the UK or Ireland to take part.

2011 has been a sad time -- saying farewell to my dad, to Quincy and to Lucy in the period of a few short months. I would like to imagine dad somewhere with couple of warm furries on his lap. When she lived with my parents, he often walked Lucy to get his exercise in each day and she always made him laugh, not least as she often brought a collection of socks and other objects she cherished to a nest in the middle of their bed.

Lucy and Quincy, perhaps reunited somewhere now, on a similarly soft sofa :):

http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4090/4844485625_dfc1130a03.jpg

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3111/2584859334_f5e9976f62_z.jpg

And my dad:

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/05/13/MNLILLINGT14.DTL

M (http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2011/05/13/MNLILLINGT14.DTL)uch love to you all.

I am so sorry for your loss, your family is on my thoughts.

Sabby
1st July 2011, 08:40 PM
I am so sorry for your loss of your Lucy and your dad.
I am sure they are all together again.

HollyDolly
1st July 2011, 09:16 PM
:hug::hug:


Nanette

Thelly
1st July 2011, 09:31 PM
We will miss Lucy so much. I always loved telling people her age as she looked like a little puppy sometimes, and that she came all the way from California to live here in Ireland with her extended family of dogs and cats!


I will always remember her love of socks (there was at least one or two in her bed when she visited) and also her love of barking when talking on the phone! A strong & quirky personality, as you said.


It has been a very hard start to 2011 for you Karlin and I hope the second half of the year will be easier.

:hug:

Jasper and Holly
1st July 2011, 09:39 PM
Karlin your post was very touching. I am very sorry about Lucy and your dad. Thinking about you at this sad time.

meljoy
1st July 2011, 10:16 PM
Karlin,

Im so sorry to read your post. My deepest condolenseces for the loss of both your Dad and dear little Lucy.

Mel XX

Mindysmom
1st July 2011, 10:37 PM
I am sorry for your losses Karlin.

Holly
2nd July 2011, 01:55 AM
I am sorry for your losses and that this has been such a hard year. What an accomplished man your father was-- I am sure you are very proud of him.

waldor
2nd July 2011, 03:49 AM
Karlin - I am so very sorry that you have lost your dad and your dog Lucy. (((Hugs)))

BrooklynMom
2nd July 2011, 04:19 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss Karlin. :hug:

mellie
2nd July 2011, 07:27 AM
I'm very sorry for the loss of your precious Lucy. She was a beautiful girl. I can imagine your father, sitting with two very special furry angles on his lap in paradise! Its heartbreaking that she passed before you got to see her again, but obviously she was in a place that she was very comfortable and loved. I am also sorry for the loss of your dad. Wonderful tribute in the article you linked. I pray the rest of 2011 gets better for you. :)

Sandrac
2nd July 2011, 08:01 AM
Karlin, so very sorry to hear that Lucy has gone to Rainbow Bridge. Her treasured memories will be forever in your heart. Sincere condolences on the loss of your dear father - losing a parent is the hardest to bear. :hug:

Margaret C
2nd July 2011, 01:42 PM
Thank you for letting Lucy give hope to cavaliers yet to be born.

I would also like to thank Thelly for what she did to enable Lucy to donate those so important tissue samples.

I hope that Lucy's doggie heaven does have a familiar welcoming lap, a loving cat to snuggle with, and a numerous supply of socks.

Karlin, your Father was obviously a man to be proud of and I think that you must take after him.

mommytoClaire
2nd July 2011, 03:10 PM
Oh, I am so sad to hear of all the heartbreak going on in your life Karlin.I came here today to post a note about my sweet Nash (non Cavalier) being put to sleep yesterday, and instead found this memorial for sweet Lucy, and your wonderful dad Glen.What a wonderful life you gave Lucy, and how obvious is was how much you adored her. I only wished she could have stayed long enough to see you once more. But I wonder if somehow, her little heart knew that you dad was gone and her's wanted to join his now.There is no good time for our sweet dogs to leave us. Having had to make a hard decision in the last 48 hours, I know full way the emptiness that even one of them leaving brings. Your dads memorial tribute was so lovely. He sounds like one of a kind, and as Margaret said, his daughter surely has taken after her wonderful father. I'm so sorry you have to have two things happening in one week which are such heartbreakers. Know that I am thinking of and praying for you and your family. Thank you for sharing a bit of your dad with us. He was a brilliant and special man, that is obvious by what was written about him and your adoring love for him.Lucy was a beautiful dog. I am so thankful she got to live out the last end of her life with people who loved her so greatly.

Tania
2nd July 2011, 03:41 PM
I am so sorry, this first part of the year has been so terribly sad for you. Little Lucy will be snuggled up on a very comfy lap making your Dad smile I am sure :hug:

Karlin
2nd July 2011, 03:48 PM
Thanks for so many kind thoughts -- such support always helps.


We will miss Lucy so much. I always loved telling people her age as she looked like a little puppy sometimes, and that she came all the way from California to live here in Ireland with her extended family of dogs and cats!


The funny thing was that people would always think she was just a puppy when I was out with the others! I would get asked if any of the others were the parents of 'the puppy'. No one could ever believe she was the oldie in the group. :)

It has been a hard few months. Lucy was the the only one of the three whose passing was more or less expected within a short time frame.

I was able several weeks ago to go out to California and be with my dad at my parent's home in time for his final days, and was with him when he died. It was lovely that he could be at home with everyone there. Mom and I were reminiscing last night how dad would lift Lucy to the end of the bed and she'd slowly creep up til she was lying on my mother's pillow... :lol:

Dad was a wonderful man and an enormous influence in my life. We were always very close and very similar in interests. :)

Spangly
2nd July 2011, 05:20 PM
I`m so very sorry Karlin to read that you have had such a sad time. What wonderful tributes to both your Dad and to Lucy.

mishy
2nd July 2011, 08:26 PM
Karlin, so saddened to hear that Lucy has passed away. All of us with elderly cavaliers wish that when it is time for them to leave us that they would just close their eyes like Lucy did and drift off peacefully. It must be a comfort to you that she spent her last few days with Thelma I'm cetain she was very happy there. So much heartache in a couple of months you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Erin2854
2nd July 2011, 08:55 PM
Oh Karlin..:(
I can't even tell you how sorry I am to read of this news and your recent losses. I am in tears as I type this. I can only imagine what a difficult time this must be for you. I'm glad that Lucy went peacefully and was in a loving environment. It is probably best that you were not the one who had to discover she had passed..I would imagine that would be just too much to handle. It seems that your beloved father needed her with him in heaven and she felt it was her time to join him and keep him company once again. My thoughts are with you. <3

Cathy T
3rd July 2011, 03:33 AM
God bless Thelly's big and generous heart and taking such good care of Lucy for you. To know she was so comfortable at Thelly's that she was able to peacefully pass away just tell you so much.

You know how sorry I was to hear about Lucy but you also know how incredible it was that she did so well for so much longer than anticipated.

Praying that you are through with losses for a long time now Karlin. :l*v:

SuzRN
3rd July 2011, 05:04 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. Run free little girl.:l*v:

Kathleen
3rd July 2011, 11:25 AM
I'm so sorry Karlin. My deepest sympathy to you and all who loved Lucy. xxx

Claire Price
3rd July 2011, 11:48 AM
My first reply to a thread and me crying again, these are special dogs that pull your heart strings, our thoughts are with you - remember the strong little dog that she was xxxx

robbieswan
3rd July 2011, 08:41 PM
Just wrote a small poem for you Karlin. Hope it helps...( big hugs )

Our time on Earth is measured,
Whether you have two legs or four,
Dad, Lucy & Quincy,
I could not have loved you more.

Surrounded by your legacies,
I know I'm not alone,
The physical not here to see,
As I look around my home.

My dearest dad goodbye,
Quincy, Lucy too,
One day we'll reunite,
When my day is due.

GraciesMom
3rd July 2011, 09:09 PM
She was an adorable girl and obviously gave you so much joy. Sending you warm hugs.

Teresa
3rd July 2011, 09:41 PM
a beautiful girl Karlin, so sorry you have lost her xxxxx

mommytoClaire
3rd July 2011, 10:21 PM
I can tell Karlin, by the memorial about your Dad, that he was truly a unique and well loved man. I am glad you were able to spend time with him before his passing, and I love the story of Lucy, crawling up the bed to finally rest beside him on your moms pillow.If just feels like she knew somehow, and needed to join him.I'm just sorry that she needed to go before you got home. She was a beautiful girl.

Karlin
3rd July 2011, 10:53 PM
Thanks again for so many nice thoughts; it helps to have such a great group here. And thanks so much for this lovely poem :flwr: -- what a kind and thoughtful gift; it made me smile. :)


Just wrote a small poem for you Karlin. Hope it helps...( big hugs )

Our time on Earth is measured,
Whether you have two legs or four,
Dad, Lucy & Quincy,
I could not have loved you more.

Surrounded by your legacies,
I know I'm not alone,
The physical not here to see,
As I look around my home.

My dearest dad goodbye,
Quincy, Lucy too,
One day we'll reunite,
When my day is due.

Jasperxxgabby
4th July 2011, 01:06 PM
So sorry to hear about Lucy, thinking of you :flwr::flwr:

pippa
4th July 2011, 04:17 PM
So sorry Karlin :hug:

jasperpaw
4th July 2011, 04:19 PM
I am so very sorry to read about Lucy and also the loss of your dear Father, thinking of you at this very sad time.:flwr:

lovecavaliers
4th July 2011, 08:56 PM
My condolences Karlin on the loss of Lucy and your father. I enjoyed the photos you posted of all. It seems as if Lucy and Qunicy were quite close and now they get to reunite.
Hang in there, we are all thinking of you.:lotsaluv:

RodRussell
4th July 2011, 09:28 PM
Judy and I extend our condolences for the losses of your father and Lucy, Karlin. You are an invaluable treasure for the breed, and I am sure your father was pleased with your contributions.

pinkpuppy
5th July 2011, 04:20 AM
I am so sorry to hear of Lucy's passing and many condolences for the lost of your dad.

murphy's mum
5th July 2011, 08:44 PM
Oh Karlin, I'm very sorry to hear about Lucy and your Dad :flwr:

brid kenny
5th July 2011, 09:35 PM
Karlin, I am just after seeing this. I am so sorry for the loss of lovely Lucy. She sounds like a wonderful dog. You have been through so much lately. Make sure the doggies and cats give you lots of cuddles during the hard times.
Take care,
Bríd

Rj Mac
7th July 2011, 08:54 AM
Karlin,

Only just seen this thread, we are so sorry for all your loss, and you are in our thoughts :hug:

Mimi
7th July 2011, 01:12 PM
Just Saw this now . I had the opportunity to meet Lucy she was a beauty . So sorry to hear the news . Thinking of you Karlin .
Mimi

Rubysmum
7th July 2011, 02:04 PM
im so sorry karlin . Run free sweet lucy :hug:

pagep
8th July 2011, 01:01 PM
Very sorry to hear this Karlin. Lucy was lucky to have such a caring owner who has given so much to help this wonderful breed. It was the loss of my own cavalier that drew me to this forum earlier in the year and I found great comfort here; I rescued my new cavalier as a direct result of a posting on this forum. We all have to go through the grief you will have experienced on losing Lucy but the love they give when they are with us makes it just about endurable.

Jane P
8th July 2011, 08:06 PM
I have only just seen this and just wanted to say how very sorry I am. My thoughts are with you.:flwr:

James
11th July 2011, 09:06 PM
I'm so sorry Karlin

tara
12th July 2011, 08:48 PM
I've been away for a bit, so just now seeing this. I am so very sorry for your loss and really appreciated reading about your Lucy. She was a very special girl who felt very special love during her life. I am sorry 2011 has been such a rough year, and appreciate you giving your time to this board despite what you've had to deal with in your life. May all your angels rest in peace.

Dublin
15th July 2011, 07:21 PM
Oh Karlin ive only just seen youre post & im so sorry to hear your beloved Lucy has passed too. She'll be in very good company over the rainbow bridge.

Im glad Lucy passed peacefully in her sleep & I hope that you & your family are doing ok.

Thinking of you x

Louise1823
6th August 2011, 11:28 PM
Karlin, I havent visited this site for a long while so am only just reading of your sad news.. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful Lucy, she's in good company now and I hope that's of some comfort to you. Thinking of you xx

smarsden99
8th August 2011, 10:29 PM
Hi Karlin,

Iam so so sorry about your loss of lucy , she sounds like a real fighter and she passed away in her sleep in peace..........

My thoughts are with you at this sad time.... Hugs

Sharon and Scooby XXX