Daisy's Mom
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I'm at my wits' end with this puppy! She spends about 90% of her waking hours biting us. We are constantly correcting her and we've tried everything recommended in all the books, websites, etc. including advice from a conversation with her breeder, who also shows cavaliers in obedience. I had poodle puppies growing up, and they did nip, but this dog out & out bites! She's drawn blood on me more than once. I'm trying all the bite inhibition things people have recommended, and we've found that she is completely insensitive to us yelling ouch, screaming out in pain, or my kids breaking into tears from her bites! I'm beginning to wonder if she's all there personality-wise. I have always wanted a cavalier because of the sweet temperament, but frankly, I don't see much of it in her. I researched breeders sooooo carefully, and paid a huge amount of money for her because I wanted so badly to get a good, healthy dog. Right now, I'm feeling like I've made a mistake, despite all my care in selecting her.
She's an angel with people she doesn't know, all wiggles and licks, and with us she is basically a terror. She had my daugher in tears 3 times today, and she is about to wear me down. From everything I've read, I don't think that she's trying to dominate us, I think she has a HUGE prey drive and if something is moving, she goes after it. I've never really liked the terrier personality, and it seems like I've somehow managed to find a cavalier who shows that exat type of behavior in spades. She has never aggressively bitten any of us when we pick her up, or take something from her, etc. It's just that she "plays" extremely violently, and we can't seem to get her out of that behavior.
I'm kind of depressed right now, partially because in addition to all the biting (as if that's not bad enough), she's had 2 pee accidents this evening on the carpet, one right in front of me. No one could have been more religious in taking a dog out over and over and over than we have been this last 2 weeks (that's how long we've had her). I probably take her outside 10-12 times a day, maybe more (that's just during the day, she does pretty well at night, only waking us up to take her out once at the most). I follow all the advice in terms of taking her out after she eats, drinks, plays, sleeps, etc. She always goes potty when I take her out, usually multiple times. I'll bring her inside thinking she's completely empty, and she'll turn around and pee in the floor 15 minutes later. I feel like crying.
My 5 year old daughter (who adores dogs and has dreamed about nothing but getting a dog for the last year) said this morning "Why can't we just get rid of her? It was so calm before we had her!" I've explained her biting and scratching away as being puppy play so many times that I feel like my kids think I'm always siding with her over them. I have to physically detach her teeth from their clothes about 10 times a day, minimum, not to mention my own.
Someone, help me see the good dog at the end of this puppy period, please! I keep telling the kids and my husband that this is the hard part, and that she will get better, but there are times I doubt it myself. I used to love puppies, and I had every confidence that I knew the right way to raise a puppy to be a good family member, but right now, I wish we had gotten an adult dog (or none at all). Honestly, if I could send her off to puppy detention center right now, and have her come back reformed, I probably would.
Sorry to be the only downer in all these positive posts about how great our dogs are, but I needed to vent and ask for support!!!!
She's an angel with people she doesn't know, all wiggles and licks, and with us she is basically a terror. She had my daugher in tears 3 times today, and she is about to wear me down. From everything I've read, I don't think that she's trying to dominate us, I think she has a HUGE prey drive and if something is moving, she goes after it. I've never really liked the terrier personality, and it seems like I've somehow managed to find a cavalier who shows that exat type of behavior in spades. She has never aggressively bitten any of us when we pick her up, or take something from her, etc. It's just that she "plays" extremely violently, and we can't seem to get her out of that behavior.
I'm kind of depressed right now, partially because in addition to all the biting (as if that's not bad enough), she's had 2 pee accidents this evening on the carpet, one right in front of me. No one could have been more religious in taking a dog out over and over and over than we have been this last 2 weeks (that's how long we've had her). I probably take her outside 10-12 times a day, maybe more (that's just during the day, she does pretty well at night, only waking us up to take her out once at the most). I follow all the advice in terms of taking her out after she eats, drinks, plays, sleeps, etc. She always goes potty when I take her out, usually multiple times. I'll bring her inside thinking she's completely empty, and she'll turn around and pee in the floor 15 minutes later. I feel like crying.
My 5 year old daughter (who adores dogs and has dreamed about nothing but getting a dog for the last year) said this morning "Why can't we just get rid of her? It was so calm before we had her!" I've explained her biting and scratching away as being puppy play so many times that I feel like my kids think I'm always siding with her over them. I have to physically detach her teeth from their clothes about 10 times a day, minimum, not to mention my own.
Someone, help me see the good dog at the end of this puppy period, please! I keep telling the kids and my husband that this is the hard part, and that she will get better, but there are times I doubt it myself. I used to love puppies, and I had every confidence that I knew the right way to raise a puppy to be a good family member, but right now, I wish we had gotten an adult dog (or none at all). Honestly, if I could send her off to puppy detention center right now, and have her come back reformed, I probably would.
Sorry to be the only downer in all these positive posts about how great our dogs are, but I needed to vent and ask for support!!!!