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    Arnold 30.4.96 - 22.8.06

    Hello everyone. I came across this site while I've been looking for answers to why Arnold ended up as he did.

    Arnold was my blenheim cavalier. I rescued him when he had just turned 3. I say rescued, but he came from a breeder in the show circuit who had used him for stud. So he hadn't been mistreated in that sense.

    Arnold had MVD confirmed about 15 months ago when he was 9 which isn't bad for a cavvy. But we had to have him put down on Monday as he has had gradual weakness in his back legs for about 6 month now and could hardly stand without excessive wobbling and falling over. This was almost constant and spend most of the time lying down. We had to make the decision to have him put down as his quality of life was rubbish. He was weeing on the floor and couldn't poo without falling over and getting it all over him.

    He did scratch at his neck (and bottom) from time to time.

    Does anyone recognise these signs?

    I have another cavalier at home - Sam who is a Tri colour. He's 5 and not from the same line as Arnold and so I'm hoping we don't have to go through this 'hell' again. I can't tell you how I feel right now and I can't stop crying - will this feeling fade with time?

    There is a huge hole in our lives at the moment and although we still have Sam - we're really missing Arnold and want him back with us.

    I'm sorry for going on in my first post but I know you are people that will fully understand. I'm so glad I've found this site for support and strength and being able to smile at all the lovely photo's of your cavaliers

    thanks
    Gaynor

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    Sitting here crying typing this - I have never had to make the decision - but I would feel that I would want to do what would be best for my babies way of life, not in pain or have a good happy life - selfishly I would want them to stay with me, but I would make that decision.

    There are many threads about the illnesses that the brave Cavaliers have to contend with MVD and SM, being the major ones.. when you have time read through as other have experience of this and have placed their thoughts and fears.

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    aww arnold, Bless you..

    Run free at the bridge, little guy.
    Sara, mommy to Kosmo ~ 4 year blenheim boy and Faith 3 year b/t girl *rescue*

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    I do think it dose get better in time Aileen

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    I am so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you've found this site, and I hope you find comfort here.

    Did the vet/s diagnose Arnold with anything? Check this link out when you have a moment. His symptoms sound SM related, to me, and hopefully this link will give you some insight. http://www.cavaliertalk.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=442
    Jen, Abbey (Tri Cavalier) & Gus (White Min. Schnauzer)

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    I had a german shorthair pointer from the time I was 2 until I was 18-- when I think of her I still cry. I miss her to this day (almost a quarter century has passed). They stay in your heart forever. I am so sorry for your loss. But -- that love teaches us a lot.

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    So sorry for your loss, may time make it a little easier for you.

    Try reading about SM within the group and on various websites, sadly three of my little angels suffered with this and a some members here also have dogs with the condition, it is very wide spread within the breed.

    htt://www.cavalierhealth.org/

    This is a good Cavalier health site, have a visit. Good info on SM, hearts everything.

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    So very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you went through. It's so painful for us when our pets are uncomfortable. I do think you made the right decision in letting Arnold go. He is no longer in pain. I've lost 2 kitties in the past few years and yes, the pain does decrease. But, my relationship with my dogs is so much different from that with the cats. I can't imagine what I will do. Cry for months I would guess!

    Glad you have Sam to comfort you through this. You'll also get loads of comfort and empathy from everyone here. We all feel your pain
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    Gaynor,

    I forgot to add,

    if you strongly think that Arnold may of had SM then it is most important to get back in touch with the breeder that you got him from and tell them so, ESPECIALLY as he was a stud dog, breeders need to know if SM is in their lines. Even a line in the post will do. They really do need to be informed.

    Alison, Wilts, U.K.

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    Thanks for all your support. I knew you'd understand.

    I've looked at SM but I'm not convinced that was what it was, I don't seem to see anywhere that indicates that loss of feeling of the back end is a sign? or have I missed it?

    The vet did mention SM but also wasn't convinced. Would you say that it sounds like it (I realise this is personal opinion).

    I miss him soooo much. My daughter (aged 15) asked if it was going to rain last night and when I asked her why, she said 'because Arnold is in the garden on his own and he'll get wet' it's pouring with rain here now.......


    I know we made the right decision. I once saw a German Shepherd pulling itself along on its front legs dragging its back end after him. I said I'd never let Arnold get to that stage - hard though it is.

    thanks again for your support

    Gaynor

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