I want to make Ella behave but I can't seem to get through to her. I have plenty of toys for her to chew on and yet she only wants feet, shoes and pants. The worst of it is that she loves my dad's arm. She draws blood frequently and although he doesn't really mind b/c he adores her, it is starting to make me feel guilty that he looks like he is abused. When he raised dogs as a young boy they just beat the crap out them (I swear he thought that was the right thing to do – he is not a mean guy). He has promised not to hit Ella but I think he is wondering if I am ever going to figure out this discipline thing before she can really hurt us.
I have tried bitter apple spray and once it dries she just licks it off until it doesn't bother her anymore and then goes back to biting. I have tried picking her up and firmly saying "no" making strong eye contact and placing he somewhere else with toys. I am going crazy b/c I don't know how to help her figure this out. She is a strong little girl and needs to be put in her place but I can't figure out how. And the growling is killing me - it almost hurts my feelings when she growls at me even though she is clearly playing with my pants or shoes, I feel like it is directed at me. Help me please!!!