Last edited by mishy; 9th October 2007 at 03:21 PM.
Hi there I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mishka . She was with you for over a decade so it's no wonder that you feel her loss so deeply. The Vet said it was her time and you let her go peacefully - bless you for that unselfish gift there's no place for guilt
Why don't you come on here and tell us all about your beautiful girl and lets see if we can get through this together. There are so many people on here who know exactly what you are going through right now and we are all here for you
Once owned by Rudeepoohs
then rescued by CaraMia and Minnie Moo.
Missing all my girls every day....
I am so sorry to hear about your dog, and I can empathise with you completely. Even after losing my first B&T who I had for 15 years a few years ago, I still miss him, still get a pang in my heart wishing he was here.
He was old, and it was his time and we looked at one another and we both knew, and in that meeting of eyes we said our goodbyes. That moment I will never forget and I will carry that and all the happy memories I have of being together, from the first day I got him, until the last, and it's the happy times we had that make things a bit easier for me.
I also remember Sam, he was beautiful and stone deaf his whole life but so full of fun, he was never sad dog, no matter what was wrong with him. . Even when his heart was so enlarged, the vet said she didn't know how he was still alive, he sat on the table and still wagged his tail and gave kisses to everyone. He died the day after the treadmill test at the Cardiologists, but again, we are happy we had him for the 6 years we did, he brought us so much pleasure, with his quirks and wonderful personality. We are very happy he died with us at home.
These are the two Cav's we have lost in the past several years, they will never be forgotten and although we now have 5 others between my mum and me, they don't replace Sam or Raistlin because each dog is irreplacable to us.. they simply carry on giving us their own wonderful memories which will also live with us when they go.
I know it's hard now, I honestly do, and while time is a great healer in all things, it might help to realise you wouldn't be "replacing" your lost Mishka. If you went for a rescue Cav, you would be helping that dog recover from ill treatment and misery and giving it the love it might never have with someone who obviously has a lot of love to give.
Hello and welcome to a wonderful community of caring Cavalier lovers. Claire L is right. You did the brave selfless thing for Mishy. It was hard, but it was right. Its okay to be sad about such a devastating loss. You have every right to grieve.
The question of when or I suppose even if you ever get another Cavalier is more complex. As you say, you can't replace Mishy. However, I ask you to consider what it says about the value of her love in your life if you chose to live the rest of your life without it. In some ways your love for Mishy would be reflected in the presense of another dog in your life. It would add to your store of good memories of Mishy and not subtract from them. Just something to think about.
One other thing, many people have found that writing about your departed companion helps. You can read many such stories on this website. I wrote one for my beloved Leisl. It's posted here, even though she was a mutt. It really did help. Write one for Mishy, let us share the joy you two had together and let us help you hold her in your memory and give us a chance to share in your sorrow. I truly believe it can help. Include your all time favorite picture of Mishy - that helps too.
One thing I learned from Mr. Spock - "the dead will never be gone as long as we remember them." That's our duty - to keep those we have loved with us in our memories. It can also be our joy - if you remember all thie times your little love made you smile and laugh, your smile and laughter will return. Once it has, you will see the question of another canine presence in your life in a clearer light.
Julie and the Z-Team
I understand the pain you are going thru. I too felt that way after recently losing my 9 year old Sasha. I now have a 10 year old ruby as well, and I know time is ticking for Sophie too.
To honor Sasha, I took approx. 6 photos of her and had them matted & framed. Her picture hangs in the living room, so everyone can always see it and what a beautiful girl she was. I was going to get some type of "rememberance" to honor her, and this turned out to be a really nice one esp. with her pictures at different times in her life.
There will never be another cavalier that will replace Mishy - but there are so many (esp. older/rescue cavs) that need a great wonderful home to live out their years. You will be surprised at how different they all are - yet still encompass the gentleness of the cavalier breed.
"Don't accept a dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful" Ann Landers
Hello Mishy, i am so so sorry for your loss. You have come to the right place as everyone on this board is so kind and caring
Sarah, Lady, Daisy and Billy
I'm Still Here
Friend, please don't mourn for me
I'm still here, though you don't see.
I'm right by your side each night and day
and within your heart I long to stay.
My body is gone but I'm always near.
I'm everything you feel, see or hear.
My spirit is free, but I'll never depart
as long as you keep me alive in your heart.
I'll never wander out of your sight-
I'm the brightest star on a summer night.
I'll never be beyond your reach-
I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach.
I'm the colorful leaves when fall comes around
and the pure white snow that blankets the ground.
I'm the beautiful flowers of which you're so fond,
The clear cool water in a quiet pond.
I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in the spring,
The first warm raindrop that April will bring.
I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,
and you'll see that the face in the moon is mine.
When you start thinking there's no one to love you,
you can talk to me through the Lord above you.
I'll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,
and you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.
I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep
and the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.
I'm the smile you see on a baby's face.
Just look for me, friend, I'm everyplace!
I am so sorry for your loss
---Aileen and the gang(Barney---Jazzie---Sam)
Cavaliers at the bridge Mattie and Rocky& Sam
Better to light a candle for one lost dog than to curse the darkness of man's indifference.Saving just one dog won't change the world but it surely will change the world for that one dog.
That is beautiful,
Julie and the Z-Team
I'm so sorry about Mishka. I'm sure she was a wonderful friend to you. It is hard to make the decision to put a dog to sleep but often it is the best and kindest choice. We had to make that decision in summer 2006 for Cassie so I know how you are feeling. Give yourself time to grieve and perhaps some day you may be ready to share your life with another beautiful cavalier.
Molly (Blenheim) & Bella (Tri)
Honey, Cassie & Tiki (Cavalier Angels)
I am very sorry to read about Mishka. It is very difficult to lose a fur friend. Just try to take one day at a time, it will be hard, but you have to go on. She had a good life with you and you can feel good that she had such a great home with you and your family.
Sharon, proud Mom of Scout (tri) and Breeze (Newfie)