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    I just wanted to see what people think I should do.
    When I lost my last Cav Sam 2 years ago I always said I would take his ashes and scatter them on the beach we always went on holidays. He loved it there. But I could never bring myself to take him down with us and set him free. I even found it hard to even go back there for a good while after we lost him as I found it too upsetting. Anyway we are going down again this weekend and my husband thinks we should take him and set him free. I just wondered what you guy's think?
    Here he is loving it.
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    I think it's a really good idea when you'll come to the beach you will remember all the wonderful hours you've had together.
    Set him free

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    I think it's a really good idea when you'll come to the beach you will remember all the wonderful hours you've had together.
    Set him free

    I agree, when you have set him free, you can think of him being happy in the place he loved to play.
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    Follow your heart. Somewhere in there (some might call it your gut, your intuition...I call it inner wisdom), somewhere in your inner wisdom you know what you want to do. That is not to say it won't be hard, some of the most joyful moments can also be really heavy, but if you follow your heart you will smile at the outcome.

    Do what's right for you...and Sam. You could also pretend like you were just having a conversation with him (or if you feel funny talking out loud, write it down)...What would he tell you to do? What would you tell him? Why would you tell him it has been hard to let him go the past few years? How would he comfort you? Sometimes that can help a lot. You might be amazed at what he has to tell you

    Good luck!

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    You have to do what you think best. But if you do scatter him on the beach what a lovely way to spend the day in future to sit there close your eyes and imagine him running across the sand
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    You will know when it is time follow your heart and the answers will come
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    Following what others have said I advise you to take your time and not be pressurised by others in what to do, go to the beach, and if its not right for you wait even if it is another two years or more, you must do what you feel is right for you and Sam.
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    I think everyone has their own way of dealing with loss - we have written in to our wills that when both my husband and myself pass away, we would like our ashes to be scattered together with those of all the dogs, so we will always be together.

    I know of someone who has arranged with an undertaker to have her coffin extended by a foot to leave room for the ashes of her dogs to be buried with her. My understanding is that generally the remains of animals are not allowed to be buried on consecrated ground and this may be a way around it!


    We have a cabinet in our bedroom which contains the ashes of our dogs, together with a few favourite toys and locks of hair

    these are the boxes - we love that they have the photos so it looks like a photo display



    we also have a memorial wall




    Don't rush a decision as you cannot go back on it - and I would hate for you to scatter his ashes and then regret it. You obviously have lovely memories of Sam running on that beach. Maybe take the ashes with you and see how you feel?


    I'm sure Margaret wouldn't mind me saying, I know she scatters the ashes of her dogs at the beach near her holiday home in Norfolk where they run and play - it's lovely to think of them all together again there.
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    I do not mean to be negative, but where I am it's illegal to scatter ashes in most places, your laws may be different. You may want to check in advance if you aren't sure.

    Whatever you choose to do, don't rush. You should be at peace with your decision before starting. I have my border collie's collar and one day I'll take his tags off and donate it to a shelter, but I haven't been able to do it yet, and it's been 2 years.

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    That would be a hard decision. ON one hand you'd like to keep him with you, on the other, what a lovely place for you to leave him.

    But, remember this.......Sam is forever with you, because you hold him in your heart. So, no matter what you decide, he is with you. He'll never leave because you hold all those wonderful memories in a special place just for him in your heart.
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