Thanks for posting all of these reads, they have really got me thinking as well as opening my eyes. I always say "I just wish Brooklyn could talk!", I guess our closest thing to that is humans.
As with any surgery, human or animal, there are always risks and nothing is ever 100%....I know this from personal experience, going in for a "routine surgery" last year and coming out with severe complications that will affect me with pain and walking for a lifetime. That's something I think will always be wondered and can only be personally answered, and it is unfortunate that our pups can't weigh in on it. There are so many questions...do I? don't I? Will it be worse if I...? Will it be better if I...? What if? Why didn't I? There are never going to be answers to those questions. Even if this was a "cure" or became "routine", it is still surgery and any surgery poses great risks that have to be weighed out, because even if it is a 1 in a million chance that there will be a complication...there is that 1.
I think we were paired with our own individual dog(s) for a reason and they trust us and give us these decisions to make for them because they know that we will do the best we can for them with what we have. We will give them surgery if we think it will help, and we will stick to medications if our gut tells us to do so. I guess that is the problem, it is so personal, such a heavy decision for a "parent" to make on behalf of another living being (our dogs). This is why all of you are so special...we are all making these decisions for our cavs on a daily basis and they trust us to research, talk and explore. They trust us to have conversations like these so that each of us, as individuals, have a tool box of information to make decisions for our dogs weighing up all these heavy "what ifs...". It is so hard, I know, to battle the "what if", but at some point life just guides us that, for whatever reason, was how the story was meant to play out.
That was a babble. Sorry! Thank you for all this reading though, it is really great to pour through and think about.